Spoke to mum late Oct asking about their Christmas plans. She said they haven't talked about it yet. I let her know DH invited his aunt and uncle to our place so I'm inviting her and dad to join us. She replies they were planning on having Christmas at their place this year for us to come to. 🤔
I said our invite has already gone out so they are welcome to join or not. She says they will join us.
It's now late November and just spoke to mom to see how they are doing recovering from COVID. Told her DH and I have colds. She responds that if we are busy and tired out from being sick she will have DH and I over to their place for Christmas since they are retired. I said we have DH's aunt and uncle coming for Christmas as well and her response is tell them you aren't hosting Christmas anymore and you'll see them some other time.
I told her I can't do that! That is so rude. She responds I always have a problem with everything.
AIBU that I am so angry and don't really want my mum over for Christmas now? I'm so worried she will be rude and ruin it for everyone. If I try to talk to her about this it will turn into a massive fight where my parents will then slander me to all of our extended family.