To say no to him staying the night?

[texan45]

DC’s boyfriend came round this evening, told us his mum had told him to leave etc. Initially, he wouldn't say why but then admitted they’d argued and he hit her. DC told him he could stay but I said no to DC, DC then started defending him by saying he's constantly saying how his mum is horrible, I've never met her so I don't know if this is true, said how im being unfair as he has no where else to go etc.

Am I right in saying no or am I BU?

You're right.
You don't know all the ins & outs & don't need to know. Your home, your decision, & I would have done the same.
(I'd also keep my fingers crossed that the relationship would end..)

I wouldn’t let him stay. And he obviously can’t control himself, he hit his own mum fgs! I’d be worried about my dc being in a relationship with him

I agree with you. He's been violent towards his mum. It's your house, you make the decisions.

No way. I'd say he couldnt stay. I would let someone in his actual family worry about where hes going to stay.

I wouldn't let him stay either. A teen who is capable of hitting their own mother is a serious liability (outside of his mother being physically violent herself)

How old is he? Are we talking about an adult or a child?

I wouldn't want to make it easier for my child to have a relationship with someone who hits people during arguments.

Also would like to know how old he is. I wouldn't have let him stay either if he'd hit his mum and I would be having a really strong honest chat with my dd about violence against women and the red flags there. I'd have rang social services if he's under 18 and let them find him suitable accommodation where he'd get support as well.

Does he have grandparents he can stay with. Definitely tell your DC not to stay in a relationship with a violent person.

God no. Don't let him stay.

He had two choices whatever happened with his mum, fight or flight, he chose fight. I wouldn't let him stay.

I would not let him stay given the circumstances.

No way! You definitely did the right thing!