To look for another job rather than contest manager?

[Luther1990]

I've been in my current role two years, it has been a hard slog. It's better paid than my previous role and I could do it fairly easily, if it were not for my manager.

She has a history of making employees lives very hard, setting difficult/unattainable goals, playing games in general and pushing people out of jobs when she fancies. Others have made formal complaints in the past but not real action is taken, management is weak and it's not a large company.

I can see her erratic behaviour starting to push me out - difficult/unattainable tasks, gossip and misinformation. I've probably fulfilled my purpose to her now and she's planning moving me on.

Aibu to nod and smile and find another job in coming months? It's not necessarily easy and I may have to take a pay cut. Morally I know I should raise a grievance but realistically she's evaded culpability for ten years (!!) in her role, so contesting the situation would likely be stressful and pointless.

To tell someone to stand up and complain is very easy to do. But the reality is no one is likely to back you up, you lose friends over it, it strains relationships, and 9/10 it the whistleblower who loses out. I have been there and got the t shirt.
life is difficult enough, work takes up a disproportionate amount of our lives. So I would argue for just nodding at her requests, get the job done and look for something else. The history you’ve given indicates she isn’t going anywhere soon.

Get out, as soon as you can. Don't let her wear you down.

i would leave. I have been in your situation and for her to have existed as she has done means that she has the support of others above her, otherwise action would have been taken by now.

work shouldn’t have to be that hard. I would look for something else x

Get another job. You could decide when you leave to pursue a claim of constructive dismissal, but would need to ensure you have evidence of the complaints being ignored (which year etc).

I am assuming that the ill-treatment is to everyone, not just women, or age or race related.

Dependent on the line of work, you could make it clear to customers/suppliers why you have left when you do. So they have the choice to deal with a company that treats employees reasonably or not.

Life is too short for toxic work environments. It's not worth the stress it will put on you both inside and outside work. Leave, move on and let her carry on her miserable way of managing.

I would absolutely start documenting everything and building a case to get a payout for bullying etc. I wouldn't leave without an agreement. Then I'd find a new job.

Find another job, then give your very honest feedback about the manager in your exit interview and make sure that it is recorded as your primary reason for leaving.

@balalake yes she's like it to many people from what I can see, no discrimination.

I agree that after ten years of getting away with this behaviour, management are either scared to address it or she's too useful in some way for them to remove her. She's also quite clever at choosing only one or two people at a time to victimise.

I’ve done this. If it’s as simple as printing out the emails/creating the log, raising the grievance and then submitting the ET1 form it isn’t particularly stressful and it would be one way of mitigating any potential losses

You gave them 2 years of your time and you just want to "walk away" because of a "bully"?

Why not just "work at a new pace" and let the tasks pile up. Do you get paid more if you complete your tasks more quicker?

Look into "Wrongful Termination" and make sure that you don't do anything "wrong", but maybe she's stressing you out and your performance is getting slower.

I don't let bullies win.