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Phenolet · 27/11/2022 12:37

Someone in the United States has been using my email address for their Arbonne account (I'm pretty sure it's a multi level marketing company).

Every once in a while I get emails confirming their order of vitamin sachets and grooming products. It doesn't really bother me as it's only this one company, it's not like this person uses my email address for everything.

Today however, I decided to log in to that person's account and change the password after another email confirming order. I figured they wouldn't be able to log in and then they'd have to open up a new account using their own email address.

However, I now feel bad about it. I was petty and should have just left it. As I said, it's not as if it's a huge inconvenience to me.

What do you think? Was I unreasonable and mean for doing this?

OP posts:
lieselotte · 27/11/2022 16:24

I wasn't talking about unsubscribing in the post you replied to, I was talking about blocking the address entirely

For my email "blocking" just sends it to the spam filter. It's not like texting where you can block a number altogether.

lieselotte · 27/11/2022 16:26

I was petty and should have just left it. As I said, it's not as if it's a huge inconvenience to me

I don't think you are petty. It is an inconvenience when it keeps happening. My mum has had emails for people in Canada, Ireland and Australia! And my husband gets them for people in Jersey and Leicester. It just shouldn't happen.

Keyansier · 27/11/2022 16:27

lieselotte · 27/11/2022 16:23

It's not fraud! Somebody is using the OP's email address so she's taken steps to stop it happening.

Mind you it might not be deliberate on the other person's part. Both my mum and my DH get emails all the time for other people. It seems to be something about how email services recognise email addresses and they might send peter.smith emails for petersmith (or similar). It's the fault of the email services in that case.

Of course it's not deliberate Confused How would it be beneficial in any way for the stranger to give the OP access to her name, her address, her contact number, her credit card info, her security answers etc by signing up to this website and then handing all her personal information over to the OP by using the OP's email address?

Keyansier · 27/11/2022 16:28

lieselotte · 27/11/2022 16:24

I wasn't talking about unsubscribing in the post you replied to, I was talking about blocking the address entirely

For my email "blocking" just sends it to the spam filter. It's not like texting where you can block a number altogether.

I know, that's what I said.

Thelongwayround · 27/11/2022 16:39

Keyansier · 27/11/2022 16:11

Firstly, it's not up to you to dictate how other people post.

Secondly, the OP could have easily blocked the address which would have sent them to spam.

Not dictating, making a suggestion 😘 Just checking, can you actually read? I clearly wrote ‘may I suggest’ that’s all. Hope you’re okay hun xxx

girlmom21 · 27/11/2022 16:43

Of course it's not deliberate How would it be beneficial in any way for the stranger to give the OP access to her name, her address, her contact number, her credit card info, her security answers etc by signing up to this website and then handing all her personal information over to the OP by using the OP's email address?

If it's an MLM they could easily be using numerous accounts to boost their own ratings or get different discounts, birthday bonuses etc at different times of the year.

Even if it's a genuine mistake, the OP has done nothing wrong.

newnamequickly · 27/11/2022 16:46

My husband has had his email address since Apple set up in 2000. He was one of the very first and it's a very brief but memorable one. Very obviously his.

About 10 years ago a person in America was giving it out as hers. We had flight reservations, hotel booking confirmations, car rentals, purchase receipts, lots of others. Repeatedly.

He'd contact the companies and it would stop for a while, then start up again. We didn't have her telephone number to alert her.

I really think this person in America just kept forgetting her correct email.

After a great many years of putting up with this he lost his patience. The next time flights and hotel bookings came through he changed them....Shock

It stopped about 5 years ago and she's not used the email again since. I think it was the inconvenience that helped her remember her own, correct email.

Keyansier · 27/11/2022 22:53

girlmom21 · 27/11/2022 16:43

Of course it's not deliberate How would it be beneficial in any way for the stranger to give the OP access to her name, her address, her contact number, her credit card info, her security answers etc by signing up to this website and then handing all her personal information over to the OP by using the OP's email address?

If it's an MLM they could easily be using numerous accounts to boost their own ratings or get different discounts, birthday bonuses etc at different times of the year.

Even if it's a genuine mistake, the OP has done nothing wrong.

@girlmom21
If it's an MLM they could easily be using numerous accounts to boost their own ratings or get different discounts, birthday bonuses etc at different times of the year.

You can do that by creating any number of free email accounts you want. What would be the need to compromise getting your personal information stolen from a stranger you don't know by linking your personal information to their email account?

Discoh · 27/11/2022 23:04

@Keyansier aren't you the poster who defrauds supermarkets? Double standards much

Onnabugeisha · 27/11/2022 23:36

Keyansier · 27/11/2022 22:53

@girlmom21
If it's an MLM they could easily be using numerous accounts to boost their own ratings or get different discounts, birthday bonuses etc at different times of the year.

You can do that by creating any number of free email accounts you want. What would be the need to compromise getting your personal information stolen from a stranger you don't know by linking your personal information to their email account?

You’re assuming theives never do stupid things. They do. That’s how they usually get caught.

Youcunnyfunt · 27/11/2022 23:38

I’ve had this before, it can get very annoying so I sympathise.

It’s amazing how some inconvenience can sharpen the mind 😉

I totally lost patience when, having had her friends personal emails, gym emails, work rotas, she then signed me up for all her bloody college notifications! She can’t have been recieving ANY emails to her actual inbox.
I just told the college and her work that I resigned / quit as I’d never actually signed up and she never used my email address again…

Thelongwayround · 28/11/2022 07:04

Discoh · 27/11/2022 23:04

@Keyansier aren't you the poster who defrauds supermarkets? Double standards much

😂😂😂

Heyahun · 28/11/2022 07:19

Hahaha @Keyansier 😆 the fraud committed is the person using the ops email obviously

Keepingthingsinteresting · 28/11/2022 07:29

Keyansier · 27/11/2022 13:22

I can't ever imagine doing something so unnecessarily petty. You might cause this person all sorts of problems by logging in and changing the password. Why on earth didn't you just hit "unsubscribe" on the email if it was that much of an inconvenience? Btw logging in to someone's account and changing their details can be an arrestable offence, you know.

It’s not the marketing emails she is talking about, but the payment receipts etc so unsubscribe wouldn’t work.

what offence do you think this is?

OP,would have been better to contact the company and ask them to change it, or they might have a phone number, but I can see why you did it and I don’t think you were unreasonable as it’s very annoying.

ipreferthecat · 28/11/2022 07:31

@Keyansier

You are talking such utter rubbish when it comes to legislation

MayThe4th · 28/11/2022 07:52

Hang on, if the OP was able to use her email address to log into this account, then clearly the person who is using the account also has to use the OP’s email address to log into said account. So clearly the other person knows full well she’s using a wrong email address, so it is absolutely deliberate on the other’ person’s part.

Chances are she doesn’t want to be scammed by Arbon so is using what she thinks is a fake email address. I’ve done, it signed on to things using a”b.com etc but invariably it’s just to log on to some free wifi somewhere or the like.

But while it’s easy enough to use a wrong email address to subscribe to something and then wonder why you never get the emails, it absolutely wouldn’t be as easy to use a wrong email to subscribe to a product which you have to use that email to log into every tie you use it.

ShaunaTheSheep · 28/11/2022 08:39

Is it a gmail/Google mail account?
Someone I know has their unusual name @googlemail, and was occasionally receiving someone else's emails, which were unusual name @gmail . I think Google assumes that gmail/Google mail are interchangeable.

burnoutbabe · 28/11/2022 09:00

MayThe4th · 28/11/2022 07:52

Hang on, if the OP was able to use her email address to log into this account, then clearly the person who is using the account also has to use the OP’s email address to log into said account. So clearly the other person knows full well she’s using a wrong email address, so it is absolutely deliberate on the other’ person’s part.

Chances are she doesn’t want to be scammed by Arbon so is using what she thinks is a fake email address. I’ve done, it signed on to things using a”b.com etc but invariably it’s just to log on to some free wifi somewhere or the like.

But while it’s easy enough to use a wrong email address to subscribe to something and then wonder why you never get the emails, it absolutely wouldn’t be as easy to use a wrong email to subscribe to a product which you have to use that email to log into every tie you use it.

Or it's just auto filled by their browser so they don't spot the issue.

I have this on one email account -someone has their Facebook account tied to my email, I can't get into the Facebook account as don't recognise their friends, they can't get in as recovery email goes to me. It will be active forever!

fdgdfgdfgdfg · 28/11/2022 10:05

ShaunaTheSheep · 28/11/2022 08:39

Is it a gmail/Google mail account?
Someone I know has their unusual name @googlemail, and was occasionally receiving someone else's emails, which were unusual name @gmail . I think Google assumes that gmail/Google mail are interchangeable.

They are interchangeable, if you have [email protected], you will also get emails for [email protected]. once someone has [email protected] it's impossible for someone to sign up to sign up to [email protected] as the account already exists.

Additional tip, Gmail also ignores periods, so bobbobson@, b.o.b.b.o.b.s.o.n@ and every combination in between also all belong to you

ShaunaTheSheep · 28/11/2022 12:04

Thanks for confirming the gmail thing. According to Google the error shouldn't have happened, but it did - this person has had the @googlemail email from very early days.

Keyansier · 28/11/2022 15:49

MayThe4th · 28/11/2022 07:52

Hang on, if the OP was able to use her email address to log into this account, then clearly the person who is using the account also has to use the OP’s email address to log into said account. So clearly the other person knows full well she’s using a wrong email address, so it is absolutely deliberate on the other’ person’s part.

Chances are she doesn’t want to be scammed by Arbon so is using what she thinks is a fake email address. I’ve done, it signed on to things using a”b.com etc but invariably it’s just to log on to some free wifi somewhere or the like.

But while it’s easy enough to use a wrong email address to subscribe to something and then wonder why you never get the emails, it absolutely wouldn’t be as easy to use a wrong email to subscribe to a product which you have to use that email to log into every tie you use it.

You've just completely made that up. What are you even talking about?

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