He lied about who he's slept with?

[purpleviolet1987]

Me & my ex have just started talking again, we spent a wonderful 2 days as a family for DS's Birthday. He was amazing, helped to no end with arranging the party.
Keeps telling me how much he loves me & has missed me, that he's proud of how much I've done to make DS's birthday so magical.
However, on the phone last night he confessed he slept with 3 people while we were broken up. I too had been with other people, of which I was upfront & honest about it. He made me feel so dirty & shameful for a good year, constantly brought it up in an argument. Turns out he is no better than me!
The people he slept with happened a year ago, but I have asked him so many times & given him to opportunity to be honest.

Am I being unreasonable to be more upset that he has lied for this long? I also found out he was talking to a girl he swore he thought was 'disgusting' & 'fat'. It's the lies I can't deal with.

Please help, I feel like this information has ruined the last few days.

He just makes me wish i had never been born. He messes my head up so much, makes me believe it's me. After all the horrible messages he calls me & didn't understand why I was upset as he was just calling to say hello.

I have him and a really hyper child who is never silent and sucks the life out of me.

I just feel like there's no me left anymore.

He has told me he is in bed crying & im nasty for not speaking to him.

So fucking what? You're exhausted because you are donating your energy to engaging with his crap. Block everywhere and ignore. He won't stop whilst you're indulging his drama so it's you that will have to do something different which means cutting off his supply of attention by ignoring.

Alternatively you can carry on engaging and keep blaming him. You are an adult with choices, choose a course of action which serves your best interests rather than his drama addiction.

Get off this merry go round. Walk away from the relationship and draw a line under it. You need to communicate only about your child and nothing else. You aren't friends. You aren't in a couple. Stop sharing information about your life. Your daughter is your only link stick to that.