Name changed due to me talking about some of this with co workers.
My husband is a clean freak. Me.... not so much. Don't get me wrong I like a clean house but he takes it to the extreme. He prefers the show home type.
We have two kids 6 and 10 both girls. Eldest is like me (likes a organises mess) youngest more like him.
Anyway we do equal share of the house. I get kids ready for school and drop them off. He picks up from the nanny when they go to hers or goes straight home when at ours.
We do equal share of house work etc but if we are doing something like playing a game then sit down for dinner he wants it tidied away straight away (even though we are still playing) any way you get the drift.
We have a good relationship (he has been depressed for a long time and has finally spoken to the doctor and is on tablets from this week)
The thing that's started to get me down is he puts me down a lot with the cleaning. Says I don't do anything etc. he always has to ask me for me to do shit (which is not true) if he is stressed he cleans and then starts banging around that I'm not helping etc. says this in front of the kids who then say it to me when they are angry which I find upsetting and have asked him to stop numerous times.
So this weekend he did it again and I lost my shit! Said fine you think I don't do anything around this house then I won't!
I know this sounds childish but I've literally done fuck all!! I've sat in our bedroom since yesterday lunch doing fuck all. Had a few naps played on my phone. Watched some films!
Went down for food last night and he tried to ask what's wrong - I said I don't want to talk to you right now (when he is in a mood it can last for days so thought I'd do the same)
Haven't spoken to him since. I want him to realise how much I bloody do!!! And to get him to stop putting me down.
Aibu to carry this on?
In fact I know I'm probably being unreasonable but any other idea to get through to him how his behaviour is affecting me!!