To worry about future for ASD child

[lollipoprainbow]

After an horrendous morning where the McDonald's order for my dd10 was wrong, late and cold and we had an epic meltdown I'm in tears terrified for her future. I try and live every day at a time but every now and then I find myself so anxious. How do others cope ?!

I found hormones played a massive part in DD1s temperament, (mine too!) now she's 17 and matured so much, has tons of insight into herself and how to manage her emotions/reactions. Also on hormonal contraceptives which are a great balancer.
It can get better (for us it did massively). At 10 she was home educated and living a nocturnal life absorbed in minecraft, now she's in the RAF 😮

@lovelilies that's good to hear ! Just another seven years to bear then ! At the moment it's Roblox !!

What worries you exactly? Things going wrong are likely to always affect your DD but her ability to cope with these things will change. I'm mid 40s and sometimes the slightest thing wrong can trigger a huge meltdown, sometimes I can be ok and 'reset' myself. It very much varied on how I feel. The other day I was blocked in a aisle at the shop and I wasn't able to ask the people to let me past so o stood frozen to the spot. Fortunately my DD was not far away and spotted what was going on so came and gently moved me back - it hadn't occurred to me to do this because it was in the direction I had come from, not where I was going. On a different day I would be able to say 'excuse me please ' or think to turn back and go another way.

Coping with things going wrong is relatively minor in the grand scheme though and it will change for your DD as she grows and develops emotionally maturity etc.

You are not wrong to be generally worried about her future.

I could tell you about DS who sailed though high school and is excelling at uni but I could also tell you he is almost 20 and still lives at home and needs a lot of support.

It's hard but if you give her support and understanding that's the very best you can do for her