AIBU to not want to travel more than an hour to see uni friends?

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I went to uni (going back 10 years now) and still do meet ups with friends every couple of months or so. Two have stayed fairly local within 30 mins south of uni. Another lives slightly further afield and is around 40 mins north. I'm about an hour north from uni.

Whenever we organise meet ups it's been in the same city as uni, which has always been fine. However, most of us have kids now (they are mostly aged 2-5 but there's also a 12yr old) so we try and organise things for the kids mostly. Whenever there is a suggestion, it's always further south than the city we usually meet in and I end up driving 1hr+. When one friend had her first, we all met in her hometown. When I had my son, I still ended up travelling 30-40 mins, which, in fairness, is slightly closer.

I've made a fuss about travel times since and we've met in that same place we met when my DS was born once before. Every other time in those 10 years, I've travelled double (or close to) what the other have. I wouldn't mind travelling if one time it was closer to me, the next I travelled that bit further but I always seem to get the short stick for travel times.

Now it's coming to a xmas meet up we're trying to pinpoint a location. Some of which were 1.5hr drive one way for me (40mins for closest friend to it).

AIBU to think that if it's closer to some one meet up, then the next it should be closer to others?

YANBU - they should try snd arrange something more central
YABU - stop complaining about travel times

@latetothefisting, I completely understand that I was the one who moved further away which is why I've been so compliant in the past about meeting up in the city that uni was. I think it's just got to the point now, after so many years, where I've been doing it for such a long time that I wonder why it cannot be more central.

Out of the four of us, two of us are further up north and the others have remained close. As it's fairly spread in both directions, I don't think it's all that unreasonable to expect.

@gogohmm, pre-kids and when kids were very young we tended to meet at costa. Since then, we've done local national parks, pizza, soft play and farms etc. All of which could be found anywhere really.

I think the problem lies there though - because, since the kids are getting older, we've tried to find nice things for them to do. Whenever places are discussed it's ALWAYS further south meaning an even longer travel time for me. Annoying if I'm travelling an 1hr 20 there and someone is only 30 mins (or less) away as just my journey there is double their round trip.

I've said this in the past and get the 'im
happy to travel' etc. but when it comes down to it, it never really transpires. So now I just feel like I'm moaning at them about it and it's causing issues. Obviously I'd have no problem in travelling further some of the time, but as I'm
the only one who's really expected to do longer journeys, it's becoming a bit frustrating.

Some of my uni friends live 550 & 400 miles away. We all live in different parts of the UK

We have been meeting up for 30+ years

We don't meet up in the same place each time

Sometimes we spend holidays or short breaks together

We make the effort & it is always worth it !

We've done this occasionally but work schedules of partners and then our own very busy schedules mean that most of the time it isn't possible.

How does that have anything to do with this?