To find this annoying?

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Would you find the following annoying or am I intolerant?

DH has electric car. We had stopped somewhere to charge. I’d gone to the shop to get us some things. I return to car park just as another EV pulled up. They have a quick conversation with DH.through the open car windows (as I’m walking to car) about parking (boring so won’t go into detail but they thought they needed to park in our spot (they didn’t but DH thought they did)). I got to the car just as they finished this conversation. I put my free hand without shopping onto the door handle and at that moment DH started reversing. He knew I was there. I stepped back. As he manoeuvred out of the way and paused to change from reverse to drive I tried to get in again. He saw.. He drove forward.

In total this happened three times. Me trying to get in and him continuing his manouvering of car. He knew I was trying to get in the car. It was not playful. Finally I got in and asked why he didn’t pause long enough for me to get in. He said he didn’t want to keep them waiting.

I didn’t say anything at the time but thought ‘so you are happy to keep me waiting, outside in the cold, carrying shopping, as long as these two randoms don’t have to wait an extra 30 seconds while I get in the car’.

just curious if you’d have felt the same or been chill about it? .

Yanbu. I'd have been very annoyed what he did was dangerous and unnecessary. As you say it would have taken seconds to let you in the car.

Why didn’t you say anything? Why did he even need to move the car if they didn’t need to park there, that makes no sense?

Thanks. It didn’t feel dangerous. All very slow and careful. Still seriously annoyed me though!

I wasn’t close enough to say anything re the car space. That’s a moot point though really. He thought he genuinely needed to move and that he was being helpful. To them. Not to me!

Reading my post back it sounds like he was deliberately trying to stop me from getting in. It wasn’t like that. He was so focussed on getting out of the way for this couple, he decided I could wait.

If it wasn’t deliberate I’d let it go. As soon as it was clear he was manoeuvring I’d have backed away and let him get on with it - why did you try to get in repeatedly when he was mid manoeuvre?

Good question. I guess it was cold, had started to rain and I thought he might unlock and just let me in quickly. He was pausing to shift into a different gear quite slowly so although I wasn’t consciously thinking this at the time I think I assumed he was pausing to let me in.

I have let it go really. I just remembered it today because other stuff has come up and wondered if others would find this irritating. I’m periM so less patient than I used to be.

YABU
if it really was just 30 seconds why didn’t you just let him do his moves and get in after

Meh - I sympathise as we have an electric car so I’m familiar with the car shuffle dance and can picture it happening but… I’d be momentarily irritated but have forgotten it after 5 minutes, if that.

You felt you weren’t his priority and whatever has brought up those feelings cut you again is the issue, but you know that, I’m guessing.

In and of itself this incident isn’t a big deal though.

You are very wise NoSquirrels!

YANBU it sounds like he was quite inconsiderate. He should have let you in. They could have waited a few extra seconds. But if it's not part of a continuous pattern, I'd probably say something when I got into the car to get it out of my system then forget about it completely forevermore.