Would I be right to think our health visitor is visiting excessively and would it be wrong to ask why and to decline ?
Basically I had 3rd DC 6 weeks ago
And for background he was 4 weeks early and did end up in NICU with respiratory distress
This actually resolved fairly quickly but there was a catalogue of errors with his care and despite me explaining my previous children have had ABO incompatibility leading to severe jaundice they read his numbers wrong and by the time he was over the RSD he had severe jaundice
Because of these issues they refused to let me feed him for several days insisting he was tube fed ( they then gave him the wrong amount for gestation and weight )
So by day 5 poor bub had lost 12.5 percent of his weight
On day 5 a new ped came in and freaked at his weight loss demanding to know if my supply was a issue
Despite explaining day 5 was actually his first day fully feeding this ped seemed to have a huge issue with the fact I was tandem feeding my toddler etc and seemed to be determined it was feeding issue rather than a rough start issue
Thankfully on day 6 he had made a gain and a different doc agreed his weight loss was nothing to do with feeding, she was happy I was a experienced feeder and despite the weight loss we got discharged
Midwife weighed him again and he had made a gain and we got signed off to HV
By the time hv came out we had been home a week and he gained over a pound in that week
However again I was questioned around feeding , tandem feeding
For more background I've been breastfeeding everyday for 6 years, my eldest fed to almost 5 , my 20 month old is the one who is tandem feeding with my youngest
It's my second time tandem feeding and I have a oversupply
Very confident in what I'm doing
She came back again the next week and again he had gained 600g so over a pound
She was on holiday the next week but wanted to send someone else but we declined and said we where happy
Yet her first day back her holiday she turned up unannounced to weigh him ( again he'd had a big weight gain he's way over birth weight and above 75th centile )
This week she turns up again unannounced just as I was trying to get out with kids, I assumed it was 6 week check but she said no she would just weigh him and do 6 week check at 8 weeks
I explained we would be on holiday at 8 weeks so if she could just do it now as he's doing brilliant and be good if she could tick it off but no she refused and is now back again next week
I've had to cancel 20 months old swimming to fit her in
So basically in 5 weeks we've been home she's been out 4 times despite chunky weight gains
And no one explaining any concerns
One thing I did find was in my notes it was noted that he had large weight loss in NICU because my toddler was taking the calorific milk
Apparently the lactation team made this note despite never meeting us and clearly this isn't the case
( All of this mis info will form part of larger complaint )
So yeah back to my question is 4 visits in 5 weeks excessive and should I ask why ? Do I assume they are still worried about his weight despite his big gains ?
Getting a bit fed up with having to fit it in when he's fine