3 year old said I hit him!

[lucie333]

My toddler woke up this morning with a scratch on his head and I said "what happened to my baby" this is completely my fault I think it's just something I've always said when he comes home from nursery with a nasty bite or mark I say what happened, he usually says boys hurt me but I think he says this because he knows I'll cuddle and kiss him and ask him if he's okay. Well when I asked that question this morning he said I hit him😒 so when I took him to nursery I let them know this is what he was saying, I thought it was best to say something rather than not. Have I done the wrong thing?

We had a car accident.
DS age 3 told nursery I had been reading a newspaper while driving! He said that since the crash, I'd decided I wouldn't do that any more.

These replies are making me feel so much better lol🤣🤣🤣

I think it's quite normal at this age DS is 4 and told my mum the other week that I got mad and hit him on the head 🥴 I obviously never did I've never laid a finger on him and my mum knows this so just found it quite funny whereas I was mortified 🫣

My then 3 year old broke his arm jumping off the sofa and had his arm in a cast. We were on a train and a policeman was on and he said to my DS jokingly "who did that to your arm?" and DS replied "Mummy"!!!
He was just pointing to where I'd signed mummy on the plaster cast but my heart sank as I stuttered to explain to the policeman what he meant

Years ago I got called into the office of the nursery I worked in because a 3yr old had told his mum that 'nokids slaps my face every day'.

After a bit of light questioning (not by me) it turned out that he was referring to nap time when I sat beside him and stroked his cheek with my finger to calm him.

I would like to cross reference this thread with the active one about many people maintaining that if their child said someone abused them, they would without question believe their child and kill the abuser.

(Again I know the actual case that prompted it involved multiple children saying the same thing, and the guy had done it. But some people seem to think it is justified to murder someone solely on the basis of what their potentially very young child tells them happened and no other evidence...)

Little bit different to a 3yo saying in a blasé fashion their mum hit them on one occasion then later learning that it wasn't the case, to an older child repeatedly stating that they and their parent are experiencing systematic and sustained abuse... You're comparing apple's and pears.

@givemushypeasachance I understand your point but I think my son saying "mummy hurt me " or someone else is different to my son saying "X Y Z touched me inappropriately "
It's not something a child would say often ?
My son is hearing me say " don't hit mummy that's not kind" he doesn't hear people say they were touched inappropriately or r*aped. So I would 100% believe my child if they told me someone sexually abused them, I'm assuming you meant sexually abused?

Your dc was being honest in this case though???

@lucie333 - the same sort of misunderstandings or children mixing up things can happen with young children, they're unlikely to understand things in the same terms or language. So it could be casually saying something like "Timmy [member of staff] at nursery licked my willy", or "Grandad tickles my bottom". Sometimes it can be a genuine revealing bad things are happening, other times it's mixing up two events or something they've imagined or dreamt, or who knows.

Small children wouldn't see it as 'inappropriate touching', unless they know they aren't meant to be touched there e.g. through things like the NSPCC pants rule, which can help them to identify when to tell someone what happened.

It’s very different, for starters it’s normal for children to know about hitting etc, they may have done it, other children may have, it happens in mild forms in even films and tv aimed at very young children - if a child knows about sexual contact, that in itself is a huge red flag.

And tbh, it’s a bit odd that anybody would think to compare the things children say about stuff it’s normal to know about and stuff it’s not.

I understand completely what your saying but under no circumstances does anyone tickle my sons bum I think that's completely inappropriate

If I tell my four year old off he will say I'm hurting him when I'm not even touching him, and he doesn't mean his feelings but physically. He'll grab his arm and go "you're hurting me". Kids make stuff up sometimes. His big brother also used to do the same but doesn't any more thankfully.

My extremely chatty, slightly dramatic 8yo DS recently told the optician "I'm a pain, but I haven't had the belt yet" - he was grinning the whole time, and I have no idea where he's heard about getting the belt from before!

Not my child as they can't speak yet thankfully after reading their thread

But my 3 year old niece at the time was drawing on her legs and said she's like me (because I have tattoos on my leg) and then she told my mum she isn't wearing any knickers like aunty PennyDeadful - she was and so do I 😂 - it was so random!

When pulling up my daughters tights I accidentally pinched her once. Since then when I pull her tights up she says "don't punch me!" (mispronounced pinch). Worried she's going to get me in trouble one day!

I think that’s what the PP meant, that a child might say that not realising the significance, but obviously it’s inappropriate.

I think the willy licking is significantly worse than bum tickling!

😂😂

@Changechangychange obviously, hence why i said I completely understand what they were saying

At 2 my son had a bruise on his leg from tripping over at the park. Mil asked him what happened, he solemnly replied "mummy did it"

At about age 5 I told my teacher I didn't like gin and tonic, cue my parents being called into school for a "chat". It came from the fact that whenever I asked for a drink my dad would say, as a joke, "what would you like? Water? Milk? Gin and tonic?" He was mortified to be called into school and has never let me forget it (even mentioned it in his speech at my wedding)

Well yes. It was only half the story though and gave a very skewed impression of what actually happened.

I have to say these things are making me laugh..especially the goat riding one. LMAO
I'm just cracking up.

Kids eh. These punch in the head stories are crazy.