To have completely had enough

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I feel like DH is literally the laziest person ever. He lost his job last week because apparently the manager was an arse, which he probably was but one of the reasons was his lack of urgency which I can completely relate to. Since being off work he can’t get up in the morning with the kids because apparently I can function in less sleep than him. I was working on Monday and Tuesday, I prepared tea, sorted out the washing, cleaned up, got the kids ready for school/nursery. This morning I walked into the room and called him a fat lazy prick but I can’t take it anymore. I have been up since 6 with the kids and he has t even come down yet. He keeps saying I never have sex with him, I couldn’t think of anything worse! He is making me very unhappy. Yesterday he asked me to take our son our whilst he made a few calls, that literally never happens for me.

If you can't stand him anymore, then I think it is time to leave. No one should feel pressured to make a relationship work for the sake of the kids when it involves sharing living space and having sex with someone you no longer love (and in this case, seem to actively dislike). That crosses too many boundaries.

Would he be prepared to go for counselling with you? At least then if you do decide you can’t make it work maybe you could work out a breakup plan and try to
minimise the fallout on the kids.

He sounds depressed. It's not healthy getting the sack for any reason, has he always been a completely lazy person since day dot, or could something be going on where he needs to seek help for depression/moods/weight etc etc. Some people get in a really bad rut in life and struggle to get out of it. Some people are just outright lazy. Sorry you are going through this, my advice would be to try and sit and speak to him, no kids, just you 2, and lay it all down. See if anything is worth saving x

Why do you think you love him?

I think I just need to let it not bother me, I feel so bad for what I said but I asked him so many times before that to help me and I just snapped.

You're sacrificing your happiness doing that, try and speak to him and be totally honest about what you've said in your posts x

I put up with this kind of thing for years. Leaving him was the best thing I've ever done.

Only you know what you want.