To potentially miss out on this opportunity because of my insecurities of how I look?

[DatingAdvice72]

So I’ve been speaking to someone online for a couple of months now and are looking to meet up soon - we know what each other look like because of photos, snapchats, social media etc however there is one big insecurity that I have about how I look that they aren’t aware of and it’s almost making me want to not meet up with them and potentially miss out on this opportunity even though we get on so well.

Basically I have had a lot of issues with my teeth due to medical issues and also they aren’t straight which is the biggest insecurity I have - one tooth at the front goes behind the rest if that makes sense - it makes me feel so insecure and I’m finally in the process of having them all sorted out and straightened but it’s going to take some time due to needing some work done first like fillings replaced to white ones, root canal etc.

I know it sounds like such a stupid thing but it just makes me feel so insecure and unattractive - enough for me to just not meet new people or give myself any chances of happiness in life etc and I know it’s going to be noticeable as soon as someone sees me for the first time in real life.

I think it this situation it would be worth telling him about it casually in advance so that it’s less of a big deal. So you could message or say something like “ugh, just got back from the dentist. My stupid tooth is taking forever to do [whatever] and it’s driving me mad!”

I have a huge chip out of my front tooth and occasionally draw people’s attention to it by mentioning it. After it’s been discussed/acknowledged people move on better than if I don’t mention it and leave people trying not to look as though they are looking at it.

It doesn’t sound stupid at all. We all have insecurities and sometimes they really can be debilitating. I think they best thing for you to do is to try and take some control of the situation.

Fingers crossed he’ll be looking at your lips and into your eyes anyway!

Honestly they likely won’t even notice.
a good friend of mine had a massive snaggletooth issue.
in her head at least.
the rest of us didn’t notice.,

Thank you for your responses this late at night! I have mentioned it before how I need braces etc but they’ve not actually seen what the issues are with my teeth etc so I don’t know what their expectations are of how crooked etc they are. I was in an abusive relationship for a really long time where I was constantly put down for my looks and personality etc and because of that I’ve been a really lonely person ever since because I don’t feel good enough to let anybody in. But I’ve finally met someone who I am starting to really like, who makes me feel good about myself etc and I just hate the fact this could potentially ruin it for me! X

Huge hug.
I agree with other posts, either mention it beforehand like a joke or even just go; he’s unlikely to notice. They’re likely not as bad as you see them. Please go! Please let us know how things went and good luck! X

This person also had braces because I don’t think their teeth was particularly perfectly straight so I’m hoping that means they’ll be more understanding! And thank you I’ll definitely put an update when and if there is one! X