Was this sexual assault?

[Finegood88]

in short, went to a house party of my friend’s…got drunk and they said to sleep in their (absent) housemate’s bed.

all ok… until the housemate got back the next morning. I was semi awake and he got into bed with me, took my hand and slid it into his trousers. I pretended to ‘wake up’ so took my hand away and pretended to go back to sleep. Not ok is it?

Definitely NOT okay. I’m sorry that happened to you 😔

And definitely sexual assault (from Rape Crisis website) : Sexual assault happens when someone touches another person in a sexual manner without their consent. Or when someone makes another person take part in a sexual activity with them without that person's consent. It includes unwanted kissing and sexual touching.

It's not ok no.

Yes, that was sexual assault, no ambiguity around it!

No it’s not okay, that is a sexual assault . I’m sorry that happened to you, how are you feeling?

Definitely sexual assault. How are you doing?

Obviously sexual assault and I'm not going to vote on a bloody poll about it.
Hope you're ok- can you talk to someone in real life about it?

Thanks all. I think just the recognition it’s not ok is good! Blame myself for being ‘vulnerable’ but why should I?

It is not your fault! You did not expect him to come home, you did not expect him to get into bed with you and you definitely didn’t expect him to do that.
Your friend said you could sleep there, any decent person would have spotted someone in their bed and then left the room. Fair enough if he was angry for you being there but that would be his problem to take up with his flat mate/ your friend.

I hope you’re okay. This is disgusting behaviour by this man. Did you tell your friend about this? I would want to know if I lived there. I’d probably make a plan and move out. It’s not safe to be around this housemate. My view (I’m not a professional or expert but hopefully someone will come along who is) is that a man who does this kind of thing will eventually escalate.

felt so weird and I don’t know why I didn’t say anything at the time… like I said felt guilty being in his bed even though he wasn’t there and I was fully clothed

You were and still are in a state of shock. As you said, you were fully clothed and did not expect him to be there. He should have left the room, if he was annoyed then he could have woken you up to leave.
I think he was hoping you would remain asleep and be unaware of it.
Do you think you can speak to your friend and the police?