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AIBU?

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Negative distant friend still being negative

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LindorDoubleChoc · 23/11/2022 20:40

I have someone who I've known about 15 years, friend A. I knew her vaguely for years and then she sort of manufactured a friendship with me - it's hard to describe but she kept issuing invitations and organising things, so that in the end it became rude for me not to go.

So now we've had some nice enough days/evenings out with another friend of hers, friend B - I would say they are two good friends who see each other frequently without me, who have WAY more in common with each other than I do in terms of jobs, lifestyles, interests, almost everything really - and I am an acquaintance who gets tacked on (for reasons I don't fully understand).

The threesome has dwindled down to a definite twosome over the last year or so. This is fine with me and I find my dates with them quite draining (there is an awful lot of moaning about everything, especially work). I also had a weekend away with the two of them which I hated.

Anyway, friend A has got in touch with me again. She last messaged me about 2 months ago and I replied. Today she asked how everything was. I said all fine here thanks, how are you? She replied "all good and all exhausted".

AIBU to not be bothered? She's always exhausted. If she was one of my best friends suddenly announcing she was exhausted I'd be concerned, but she is always like this. What do I reply? "Sorry you're exhausted x". Or ignore? Or something else?

In a nutshell, I don't know what she wants from me!

OP posts:
Metabigot · 23/11/2022 22:01

'Sorry to hear that, hope you get the chance for some r &r soon'

Then leave it.

browneyes77 · 23/11/2022 23:23

Metabigot · 23/11/2022 22:01

'Sorry to hear that, hope you get the chance for some r &r soon'

Then leave it.

I agree with this

Risslan · 23/11/2022 23:28

Agree with the above, it's polite and will stop her feeling bad about your lack of response.

You could tag on 'me too, so busy' to preempt any suggestion of a meet up.

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