Biased views

[Lola2016]

If your child isn’t conventionally good looking, do you as a parent secretly know this or are mummy eyes a real thing?

I see so many social media posts from people posting pictures of their children and expressing how beautiful their children are but they wouldn’t really be beautiful to an outsider. Do their parents know they aren’t very good looking or are they biased and blinded by mummy eyes?

Looks aren’t everything but I just really wondered if we as parents see things differently?

osting pictures of their children and expressing how beautiful their children are but they wouldn’t really be beautiful to an outsider.

You mean they aren’t beautiful to you. That doesn’t mean they aren’t beautiful to the parents or other outsiders.

Beauty is subjective.

No I disagree as they wouldn’t be beautiful to the outsider but I'm sure they are beautiful children. I’m just asking if we see things differently because we are parents?

Don't know. Mines a stunner. We get stopped in the street all the time. Half the ward came to see us when she was born and could t believe how gorgeous she came out.

Sometimes I can't believe she's mine!

But yeah I think people do get mummy eyes and that's okay too. That's why the saying 'a face only a mother could love' exists I think.

Again, beauty is subjective. That aside I'd find it odd to look at a child and judge them by their looks.

It’s a genuine question as many people post about how beautiful their children are. I just wondered if mums are sometimes biased?

if the post was about how intelligent the child was then it would be a different story.

It is like in relationships. Someone could be with someone very plain looking but they love them and think they are the most stunning person in the world. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and all that jazz.

I think many of the things posted are subjective. Have you ever read a post where someone says" my in-laws or my step children don't like me because I am a bitch" ? Instead most tell you how nice they are and how much they have done for the offending parties

Have you ever read a posting where the step daughter says " my step mom does not like me because I act like an entitled bitch"? Instead most tell you how they have suffered at the hands of the greedy, grasping, and insensitive step mothers. You are left with the feeling that the world is filled with kind selfless victims who are innocent ways responsible for their situation.

People often seem to have an Inaccurate ability to judge how their actions are experienced by others. In the same vain, I think most parents experience their children as lovely beings and don't for a moment doubt that others should or could see them differently.

If just makes you wonder where all of the unkind, bitchy, and less than attractive people come from