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What the .... Is a contact nap?

143 replies

MakeMineALarge1 · 23/11/2022 13:14

Seriously just seen a picture of someone on mat leave, her baby is asleep on her, she's calling it a contact nap?
What the actual fuck, surely baby's just gone to sleep on her.

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PatientlyWaiting21 · 23/11/2022 15:45

Because people have to fucking label everything these days.

FourTeaFallOut · 23/11/2022 15:46

I always slept when the baby slept, we were early adopters of contact napping.

TimBoothseyes · 23/11/2022 15:47

When DD was small we didn't call it a "contact nap...we just called it a fucking miracle (DD wasn't familiar with the concept that babies should sleep during the day.....or at night for that matter).

EndlessRain · 23/11/2022 15:47

The wonderful thing about the English language (and most others) if you can put words together to describe specific things or to give relevant detail. Light rain vs heavy rain vs "just" rain. Small cake vs big cake vs "just" cake. Blue cheese vs cream cheese vs "just" cheese. It's a very useful linguistic tool.

People have already explained why someone might want to differentiate nap vs contact nap. I find it really quite odd someone could get so wound up by it.

Clymene · 23/11/2022 15:52

WarrenGRegulate · 23/11/2022 15:19

Currently nap trapped reading this 🙈

I like nap trapped Smile

ilovepixie · 23/11/2022 15:54

My dog is having a contact nap 😂😂

What the .... Is a contact nap?
Sunflowergrow · 23/11/2022 15:58

It’s just what it’s called? It’s not a big deal really.

SillySausage81 · 23/11/2022 15:59

Someone on my FB actually posts what she calls “middle class baby led weaning” along with a photo of her child eating some fancy dish.

That's surely got to be tongue-in-cheek. The fact she actually says "middle class" means she's definitely laughing at herself and probably just posting so that like-minded people can laugh with her.

SillySausage81 · 23/11/2022 16:03

Ditto stuff to make life easier - the sneering on another thread yesterday about buggy boards was ridiculous.

@ShirleyPhallus have you got a link to that thread? I've literally just bought a buggy board and could do with a laugh

Sunflowergrow · 23/11/2022 16:06

I can’t believe some think skin to skin is a performance 😂

I practically tore my clothes off after I gave birth so I could have my baby as close to me as possible. If that makes me an attention seeker then so be it.

ShirleyPhallus · 23/11/2022 16:16

SillySausage81 · 23/11/2022 16:03

Ditto stuff to make life easier - the sneering on another thread yesterday about buggy boards was ridiculous.

@ShirleyPhallus have you got a link to that thread? I've literally just bought a buggy board and could do with a laugh

Here, it’s not very interesting though!

www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/4682917-lighthearted-things-other-parents-do-that-drive-you-mad?page=3&reply=121735061

Respectfullydisagree · 23/11/2022 16:17

Yeh I think you wouldn’t be making this post if you knew what contact naps entail… being pinned down for hours as if you move the baby to anywhere else they wake immediately! 😭

Slings/ carriers are the solution! I didn’t know what a contact nap was until my baby did this and made my life HELL. I was horrible to myself as I couldn’t work out what I was doing ‘wrong’. Giving it (the style the baby likes to sleep) a name means mums like myself can identify what is going on and get help/ learn about/ identify with other mums wtf their baby is doing. Sorry not sorry if it offends you 😂

I am slightly jealous of your non contact napping baby! But hey snuggles are great… as i lie here with a baby on my boob for 3 hours 😭😂

SillySausage81 · 23/11/2022 16:23

Thanks!

LBFseBrom · 23/11/2022 16:29

I didn't realise it had a special name either. It's quite a normal and usual thing for your baby to sleep on you. I wouldn't get annoyed about it but it is irritating that everything nowadays has to have a label.

KatyJ89 · 23/11/2022 16:37

This. This is why! "Contact naps" were always talked about in disgust in my circle of friends 🤣 heaven forbid I enjoy my baby napping on me

ShirleyPhallus · 23/11/2022 16:48

LBFseBrom · 23/11/2022 16:29

I didn't realise it had a special name either. It's quite a normal and usual thing for your baby to sleep on you. I wouldn't get annoyed about it but it is irritating that everything nowadays has to have a label.

Does it? What are the words for:

  • a baby who cries when they’re put down
  • a baby who cries but doesn’t seem to be hungry, tired or windy
  • a very very messy or unusually wet nappy
  • a bottle of milk which has been left out for too long so can’t be fed to the baby and is wasted
  • the feeling of being a new parent and being totally overwhelmed by information / advice and not sure where to turn

All of these things are totally, absolutely normal and none of them have a “label”. It really is utter rubbish to say that everything has to have a label nowadays because it just isn’t true.

Laiste · 23/11/2022 16:53

Sunflowergrow · 23/11/2022 16:06

I can’t believe some think skin to skin is a performance 😂

I practically tore my clothes off after I gave birth so I could have my baby as close to me as possible. If that makes me an attention seeker then so be it.

😍
I love that.

I wanted to but just didn't have the energy to even sit up ... so DH did it instead!

Whipped off his T shirt and snuggled soggy little DD4 skin to skin for me. Lovely moment 😊One of the nurses took a picture of them for us and it's my favourite one of DDs baby pics.

Jumpking · 23/11/2022 17:48

ShirleyPhallus · 23/11/2022 16:48

Does it? What are the words for:

  • a baby who cries when they’re put down
  • a baby who cries but doesn’t seem to be hungry, tired or windy
  • a very very messy or unusually wet nappy
  • a bottle of milk which has been left out for too long so can’t be fed to the baby and is wasted
  • the feeling of being a new parent and being totally overwhelmed by information / advice and not sure where to turn

All of these things are totally, absolutely normal and none of them have a “label”. It really is utter rubbish to say that everything has to have a label nowadays because it just isn’t true.

Who ever thought something as perfectly natural as a baby falling asleep on an adult would need a label? But it's got one.

Your list doesn't have labels...yet. Or maybe they do, and we're just not aware of them.
Who knows if these things will have labels in the future? Who cares tbh? They've been happening since time immemorial and will ever be thus, label or not.

ShirleyPhallus · 23/11/2022 17:53

Jumpking · 23/11/2022 17:48

Who ever thought something as perfectly natural as a baby falling asleep on an adult would need a label? But it's got one.

Your list doesn't have labels...yet. Or maybe they do, and we're just not aware of them.
Who knows if these things will have labels in the future? Who cares tbh? They've been happening since time immemorial and will ever be thus, label or not.

That’s literally the point. People keep saying “we have labels for everything!!!” and my point is that we absolutely do not have labels for everything. And if we did, that would be quite useful as it’s a shorter, easier way to describe stuff

Jumpking · 23/11/2022 18:00

ShirleyPhallus · 23/11/2022 14:50

One of the absolute worst things on MN is the older women who come on to threads like this to pompously proclaim that they never had specific terms for perfectly normal things and that to do so must be performance or competitive parenting or “for instagram”. Oh fuck off, it’s just a short hand way to explain something that everyone understands.

The term “play date” is actually really useful because it’s clear what it is. What’s the alternative, you say “come over to my house with your child and they can play with toys while we drink tea”. How is that better than just having a word for it?!

Ditto stuff to make life easier - the sneering on another thread yesterday about buggy boards was ridiculous.

Given that motherhood is difficult enough it really irritates me when women come on these threads to tell us how they raised their children without this stuff as though it’s somehow better. It isn’t. You’re not better parents or better people.

In light of your last message and this one @ShirleyPhallus , why on earth is it considered "sneery" to point this simple fact out then? 🤷

heyimnew · 23/11/2022 18:18

It's pretty self explanatory

PeonyBlushSuede · 23/11/2022 18:28

Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · 23/11/2022 15:15

New terminology crops up all the time. A pp mentioned ‘playdate’ - never had that term when my children were little. They just had friends round to play. ‘Window on my calendar’ = a free day. Similarly ‘deep clean’. What the heck is that? I have always just ‘cleaned’. Does that mean I only cleaned ‘shallowly’? Took off the top layer? Madness!! ‘Pan fried’, that’s just a pretentious one, because ‘fried’ sounds unhealthy. These new terms make everyday things sound different/special/posher, in some way.
I actually think ‘contact nap’ sounds absolutely perfect, quite lovely in fact, and is certainly more succinct than saying ‘baby’s gone to sleep on me’.

To be fair with Deep cleaned it has been round for years - my granny would have called it a 'spring clean'

Used not for your everyday cleaning but the couple of times a year deeper clean where May get a carpet cleaner, clean all of the sofa cushions (rather than spot clean), move the furniture to clean etc.

I don't think that one is that 'out there'

Although I agree window in my diary sounds a bit like corporate bull buzzwords (like'circle back')

ShirleyPhallus · 23/11/2022 18:29

Jumpking · 23/11/2022 18:00

In light of your last message and this one @ShirleyPhallus , why on earth is it considered "sneery" to point this simple fact out then? 🤷

Because it’s never pointed out as a simple fact, it’s always accompanied with a “oh they didn’t have it in my day and WE managed ok” <inference being that that was superior somehow>

stuntbubbles · 23/11/2022 18:32

EndlessRain · 23/11/2022 15:47

The wonderful thing about the English language (and most others) if you can put words together to describe specific things or to give relevant detail. Light rain vs heavy rain vs "just" rain. Small cake vs big cake vs "just" cake. Blue cheese vs cream cheese vs "just" cheese. It's a very useful linguistic tool.

People have already explained why someone might want to differentiate nap vs contact nap. I find it really quite odd someone could get so wound up by it.

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Jumpking · 23/11/2022 18:38

ShirleyPhallus · 23/11/2022 18:29

Because it’s never pointed out as a simple fact, it’s always accompanied with a “oh they didn’t have it in my day and WE managed ok” <inference being that that was superior somehow>

Now who's talking in extremes? You condemn the use of the word "everything" as incorrect, but yourself are using the word "never".

My original post on this thread pointed out BLW had been happening for years but never had the label. Apparently that was sneery.

Some of the posts on the thread you quoted are inferring the past was somehow superior. Some of them aren't.

Don't fall into the trap you're criticising others for.