To buy him a gift? What do I buy?

keepthesecrets · 23/11/2022 12:45

Liverpool shirt or training top
Tickets for you both to do something together or as a family.

Jemimapinotduck · 23/11/2022 12:53

My husband doesn't like stuff so for his big birthday last year I got tickets for his favourite comedian in a big arena in a close big city, had to wait a few months for the event but it was something to look forward to. I've done the same again this year for another famous comedian he likes but as it's at a much smaller venue and not in a city I only paid £66 for the two tickets. He's over the moon and it's an excuse for an evening out without the kids. He also appreciates the thought that goes into finding the right thing

Tothemoonandbackx · 23/11/2022 13:17

Definitely tickets or a day out. Something you can both enjoy. I've done the same with my OH as we have everything we need and it's just something nice to open on Christmas morning and look forward to in the future x

Keyansier · 23/11/2022 14:10

Not a football shirt, that's a really boring idea, and he will hardly wear it. Also no to the "day out you can do together" presents are meant to be for the receiver, not so the giver can muscle in on the reward too, and if he is paying for everything anyway, a day out is normal and won't be exciting. Why don't you give him a £100 Amazon voucher? Anyone would love that. It takes pressure off you wondering if you got it right and he is guaranteed getting something he wants.

EarringsandLipstick · 23/11/2022 14:19

He says he doesn't want anything for Christmas and I should spend my money on my children.

I really think you should just do this. I'm sure as a good guy he'd genuinely prefer you used the money for your DC

Perhaps organise a lunch or meal out or in your house, or just have a nice day together, that doesn't have to cost much.

FluffyWorm · 23/11/2022 14:23

He says he doesn't want anything for Christmas and I should spend my money on my children.

Listen to him!! If you really must get him something don't spend £100 on him. Don't be a martyr. Get himself something thoughtful that is specific to him for 10/20 quid.

£100 is worth more to you than it is to him.

Watchthesunrise · 23/11/2022 14:25

A £100 Amazon voucher is worse than nothing at all, in gift stakes. Nothing could say "I don't care about you or your interests" more effectively than an Amazon voucher.

Comedian tickets is a good call. In a card filled with a list of all his good qualities.

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 23/11/2022 14:25

He doesn't want you to spend money on him! Could you do "vouchers" instead, things relating to your relationship. So an iou for a massage/picnic in the park/to watch a Liverpool match on TV with beer and snacks or something like that

bigfamilygrowingupfast · 23/11/2022 14:26

What about a night at a comedy club? Fairly cheap and it's a fun evening for you both!

Yourloss · 23/11/2022 14:26

If he genuinely doesn’t want you to spend your money on him, don’t spend £100. Get him a small token present.

sparepantsandtoothbrush · 23/11/2022 14:26

Keyansier · 23/11/2022 14:10

Not a football shirt, that's a really boring idea, and he will hardly wear it. Also no to the "day out you can do together" presents are meant to be for the receiver, not so the giver can muscle in on the reward too, and if he is paying for everything anyway, a day out is normal and won't be exciting. Why don't you give him a £100 Amazon voucher? Anyone would love that. It takes pressure off you wondering if you got it right and he is guaranteed getting something he wants.

God no. Not an Amazon voucher! You might as well just tell him you don't know him well enough to know what he actually wants

Clarinet1 · 23/11/2022 14:27

If you go on the Liverpool FC site there are various tours and experiences at the stadium available. The one I looked at was a talk plus stadium and museum tour for £50 which means even if travel is involved you could cover that within budget (or probably!)

Pleasepleasepleaseno · 23/11/2022 14:29

A book?

Pinkglittery · 23/11/2022 15:03

DP always says he doesn't want presents for anything. He hates people spending money on him so I try really hard to be creative. Our first Christmas I got a photo album and put loads of our photos from when we met and little quotes from our messages to each other. He's quite soppy really so that went down really well. This year I'm getting him a year of organisation. He's rubbish at sending his family birthday cards etc but I know it bothers him so I've got all the years cards, stamps and I've set reminders to post them.
Try and think about something that doesn't cost much but is thoughtful.

TwinklingStarlight · 23/11/2022 15:33

I think tickets to a comedy show or similar and the photo album are lovely ideas.

Is there something he particularly likes to eat?Home made fudge or biscotti, cheese.

Don't spend all £100. Just tickets and one or two small things to open would be more than enough.

Ylvamoon · 23/11/2022 16:52

My DH is similar.

Presents he really enjoys are things like a lovely bottle of something & chocolates a special home cooked meal- usually involves a huge slab of organic meat & trimmings ... (you can easily spend £100.-)
Sometimes I buy something useful like new stuff for his bike or some clothing I know he wants / needs.
For DH it's the thought that counts!

kerstina · 23/11/2022 17:00

How about a man’s advent calendar? I often wrap one up for DS . Get a lot of things to open then at good value . You can get a Looks Fantastic Mankind one or cheaper ASOS do one for under £40 and Nextdo one too. Or a beer or a coffee one ?

WhiskersPete · 23/11/2022 17:03

Why don't you give him a £100 Amazon voucher?

No they wouldn't. A completely soulless gift from a corrupt organisation that doesn't pay enough tax.

Sarahemmabrown · 23/11/2022 17:22

Tickets to something together isn’t ‘muscling in on his gift’, it’s planning a lovely time together doing something you’ll both enjoy. Comedy or gig tickets, or a football match, or something new like a motorbike riding lesson or gin making session (whatever you think he’d enjoy most), would all be fun times and not too extravagant. He can always treat you to dinner or drinks afterwards.

An Amazon voucher as a gift to a new partner is a dumpable offense! I’d be so gutted to get something so thoughtless, no matter what the value.

FinallyHere · 23/11/2022 17:25

Pinkglittery · 23/11/2022 15:03

DP always says he doesn't want presents for anything. He hates people spending money on him so I try really hard to be creative. Our first Christmas I got a photo album and put loads of our photos from when we met and little quotes from our messages to each other. He's quite soppy really so that went down really well. This year I'm getting him a year of organisation. He's rubbish at sending his family birthday cards etc but I know it bothers him so I've got all the years cards, stamps and I've set reminders to post them.
Try and think about something that doesn't cost much but is thoughtful.

This. Perfect.

MerryMarigold · 23/11/2022 17:28

How about a jar of his fav sweets/ chocs and attached to each one you could tape one thing you love about him...

I think something which takes a bit of time to prepare but which is cheap to buy will show him you really care/ appreciate him - but also that you've heard him seen he said he doesn't want you spending money on him. I'd be annoyed if I specifically told someone that and then they spent 100.00. I am not on universal credit, my hubbie earns a lot. I work part time (but joint account) and I spend about 20.00 on him and vice versa!