One of my friends wants to spend more time with me than I do her. I'm quite happy meeting up once a month or so and I'm starting to feel a little suffocated by her.
I feel awful writing this as she is always there for me and truly supportive but she is also very intense. Daily messages and voicenotes. I last saw her just over a week ago where I spent the whole day with her 1:1 and today she texts "I miss you, when can I see you again?!"
I have plans in the diary with her already for the week before Christmas, which for me is perfectly fine but she has just messaged me tonight saying "I know I'm seeing you soon on xyz date, but it would be nice to see you before then, let me know when you're free?" Which would mean I would be seeing her every couple of weekends.
I am not busy enough that I couldnt see her and feel bad lying to her about that and saying I have plans when I don't.
Last time this happened I did briefly say I'm a bit busy this month so wasnt sure if i could meet and then she sent me a message proposing about 8 different dates throughout that month that she could do and then I almost felt obliged to see her!
It would just be nice to keep my weekends a little bit free for other friends and family (a lot of them arrange ad hoc or last minute get togethers and I would like some time free for these people too)
Although I appreciate telling someone I can't see you because I want to keep my time free just incase someone i would rather see more else gets in touch!
Any advice?