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What will the school do to manage this behaviour?

15 replies

AnxietyIsMyShadow · 22/11/2022 19:34

What is the usual procedure if a 6yr old girl, new to a school, shows violent behaviour to her classmates?
I am extremely concerned about about a girl who has joined my childs class and has within less than two weeks set about hitting some of the other children and generally being unpleasant. Will the school put up with this?

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WithOneLook · 22/11/2022 19:36

Depends on what you mean by 'put up with' and the circumstances of her move to the school (which you won't be privy to unless it's your child)

SerenaTee · 22/11/2022 19:38

Have you asked the school?

CuteBabyFarts · 22/11/2022 19:39

In my experience my daughter’s school didn’t do very much with a child like this. I had to ask them to move my child in to a different class in the next school year. It worked and she hasn’t had any problems since.

HappyHamsters · 22/11/2022 19:40

The best thing would be to speak to the Head and say this has been bought to your attention and what steps are they taking to ensure your dd safety and wellbeing and take it from there.

momlette · 22/11/2022 19:51

Usually at that age not too much. Schools will be more lenient with a new child who is trying to settle in. Are the other children including her or is she acting up because she’s being left out of games and activities? Often kids grow out of this or it goes in phases. Don’t rest on your laurels too much though. Your own child may have some tricky times round the corner. There for the grace of god and all that…

Wolfiefan · 22/11/2022 19:52

They should have a behaviour management policy and should follow that.

SabbatWheel · 22/11/2022 19:53

I wouldn’t put up with this at all. Phone the school as HappyHamsters said and challenge them on their management of it. You don’t send your child to school to be hit.

Wolfiefan · 22/11/2022 19:56

You can’t challenge their management of this child.
You can ask what they are doing to safeguard your own.

lunar1 · 22/11/2022 19:57

If your child has been hurt, email the school asking what is being done to keep your child safe. Don't ask anything about the other child. Just make it very clear you expect your child to be safe in school.

AnxietyIsMyShadow · 22/11/2022 20:11

Aware the child moved due to problem behaviour at previous school. Unclear if she was asked to leave or Parents changed her school for a fresh start.

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TwinklingStarlight · 22/11/2022 20:19

Go in and talk about your child's experiences. Ask them how they are going to keep your child safe. Your child should not have to tolerate being hurt at all.

However you have no right to know what sanctions or arrangements they put in place with the other girl.

Expect that there is more work going on behind the scenes than you are aware of. Keep reporting incidents that affect your child and seeking reassurance on how they will keep her safe.

DemBonesDemBones · 22/11/2022 21:03

Has she hit your child or you're just worried she might?

PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 22/11/2022 21:06

As others said, you cannot ask about the child and nor will school tell you.

You can talk and ask about how they will safeguard your child.

Sugargliderwombat · 22/11/2022 21:21

What does 'generally being unpleasant' look like ?

ldontWanna · 22/11/2022 21:45

The school should be following their behaviour policy and put in place extra support for the child if needed.

If your DD is affected, either by personally being hurt or being afraid of being hurt/witnessing these incident you can discuss this with the school and ask how they will keep her safe. You won't receive any specific information about the other child though.

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