I have read several threads recently where the poster (usually a female) is angry because their spouse or partner does not support a particular action, stance, or perspective that the poster has taken or believes. The complaint is usually "he does not have my back."
I guess my question is should you expect your spouse or partner to support you when they have a different opinion or different view of the situation? Should partners be expected to support a position that they do not believe to be the best position to take in a given situation? Does a different opinion really signal a lack of love or a lack of respect?
It seems that a common response to the partner having a different point of view is to say that the partner is emotionally abusive or in situations involving finances to say that the partner is financially abusive. What ever happened to just having a different opinion or just
looking at things differently?
It seems that there are no allowances for the possibility that there can be 2 different but equally valid positions.