To not let allow a sleepover on a first meeting?

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SS is 17, he lives with us most of the time as it's easier as we're closer to his college and his friends etc.

He's been in a relationship with someone he met on social media. I've never met him but he said I will sometime next month, DH will be away for this as he works away for a few months at a time. SS has asked if he can stay over, I've said not on the first time he's meeting him, he's said it's unfair etc and told me he's already met him once a few months ago as apparently the bf came here for a weekend with his friends and met up with SS but he was staying in a hotel so this wasn't an issue then.

AIBU?

I wouldn’t want someone I’d never met before and that my DC didn’t really know staying at my house so I’d also say no. I think I’d also say no based on wanting to set the right example to SS about knowing someone before having them stay over; even in separate rooms.

SS seems to think he knows him as they've been messaging and face timing for a while and they've met that once and he's said I can't stop him once he turns 18.

Hell no. And a double hell no if his own father isn't present. Wonder if thats deliberate?

No definitely not.

You can still say no when he’s if it’s your house!

I’d say no on the basis this person is a stranger and I wouldn’t want a complete stranger staying in my house no matter who they are.

You absolutely can stop him if it is your house!

What does his father say?

You have the right to say no to any stranger in your house, whatever the age of the child doing the asking.

Tell him to book a hotel and split the costs with his new "bf" and then it won't be your issue.

He hardly knows him if he’s only met him once. Established relationships, fine you stay over, virtual strangers, no. That’s our rules.