To ask why you did want children?

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after seeing the why don’t want children thread - wondering why if you do it want children - what were your reasons?

It feels just like an instinct, I think. Feeling like someone is missing from your life. Being curious about creating a whole new life with their own hopes, fears, dreams, talents. Wanting to nurture and loving the idea of family life is most people’s reason surely?

I just always imaged my future to have children in it. I had years of ivf and it was really clear to me that if ivf didn't work, I would either foster or adopt. Ivf worked in the end (but I still might foster in the future when the kids are older).
I agree there is an instinct although I understand not all women feel that pull.

I always wanted to be a mother. From being little. The timing was much sooner than I wanted but my reasons were purely selfish. When I had my DD I knew I didn't want her to be an only child. My DH was of the same mindset and we agreed two and done. He got the snip after our second.
We have an age gap of 5 years. I don't think parenthood is for the faint hearted and I question whether we have done the right thing everyday because of the world we are living in. No one foresaw the pandemic happening (my kids are 12 & 7) and I worry about their future all the time.

I couldn’t imagine a future without at least one little one running around. Me & my partner had a blunt conversation early on as I wasn’t willing to settle with someone who wasn’t on the same page. Thankfully he was lol. Having my DS is the best thing I have ever done. It is so bloody hard being a parent but also so amazing to watch a little human grow & seeing there personalities develop.

I always knew you grow up, get married and have kids and life a nice little cozy life. I never had career dreams , apart from being a writer

just deeply instilled genetical procreational gene

I think for me it was mostly FOMO. All my friends were doing it and it felt like the natural next stage of life after getting married. Never happened because of fertility issues but I am Ok with that. Life's good.

I didn't have children because I want them to look after me when I'm old, but I do want family around me in my later years. That was a big part of the reason

ZOMBIE!!

It just felt like that was what I was supposed to do. I never really questioned it. I was instilled with this deep inherent belief that my life would somehow be ‘less’ without them and that I’d forever feel incomplete and ‘who will visit you when you’re old? What will your life be when you’re 70?’

well now I have two toddlers (one severely disabled) and whilst I love them I HATE being a mother and it’s completely ruined my life. Wish I could go back and remain child free forever tbh

I always presumed I'd have kids. I had a happy childhood and decent parents.

Then I fell pregnant when I was 21 and the rest is history.

I just felt it was the next step rather than a burning desire. Absolutely adore my dc but it wasn't something I instinctively felt.

Natural instinct. Feeling broody. Wanting my own family. Wanting to pass on so much to some mini me's/DH. So many reasons. Mever had a doubt or conflict and married DH who wants the same and on the same page.
Would love 3/4 kids God willing.

I didn't want children, didn't think I would have children and then I had an unplanned pregnancy. I couldn't believe the feeling, I knew I would keep the pregnancy.. I did have moments of wtf have I done but overall it felt like nature took over if that makes sense?
My daughter is now 15 and I had a second child my son is 12
I do not regret it at all. I'm lucky I think that the maternal instinct was there

@Thehonestbadger

Aww hun I'm so sorry, I used to work with children with disabilities and know it's a hell of a drain on the parents.

Are you getting support i.e. Saturday clubs etc so you get a bit of respite? What disability may I ask?

Hugs

I didn’t, but 8 years ago next month I got rip-roaringly drunk on wine at a staff party and slept with DD’s dad. When the hangover didn’t go away for a few weeks I took a test and as soon as I knew about Dd I loved her.

I’d had an abortion prior to conceiving Dd and had no regret, so it was very much my body knowing her I think? I have no idea never felt anything like it before or since.

DD’s dad ended up being an utter dickhead, but she’s just the best thing, worth every moment of stress and worry!

I always wanted a family, i knew that was a life goal for me. I went through hard times in my 20's so kids weren't something i thought would happen as i couldnt bring a child onto the mess i was in then..

I sorted my life out, but had miscarriages, after a miscarriages it was like some weird primal maternal stuff got ignited, i was so upset, as i felt like a mother but without the child.

Luckily my husband and I finally had our rainbow.