To let her sleep over...

[Polly099]

My DH and I are going out on Saturday night with some friends. I have asked my Mum to come round and look after my 2 DC's (7 & 8). She is more than happy to and they have a lovely time together. My daughter has asked if they could instead sleep at Grandma's house. I said yes but DH has said no! He doesn't really like my Mum - all his issues and he does make it hard sometimes with them.

Anyway his reasons to her were that he doesn't want them to stay over as him and DS have to be up for a football match early at 9ish. Its doable though my Mum lives 10 mins away. My daughter was a bit sad about it. Am I unreasonable to go against what he said and tell her they can sleep over.

I've told them both they can have a sleepover at Grandma's and he has gone into a right mood. He said 'oh so it's OK for 1 parent to make a choice about sleep overs and holidays without the other one, oh I will remember that'
He said 'we don't need them to stay over this time we will be back early'
Is it me or is it about more than just us needing a babysitter at this point and if the preference from both kids is to sleepover there is nothing wrong with that.
Both the kids are very excited and wanted to ring Grandma straight away so I am just going to focus on that and not his mardy mood for the next few days.

No the issue isn't that only one person should make a decision. He thinks what he says goes. You're not 10

I think I remember the holiday thread too and I think I remember thinking then he was a selfish arse.

If he won't tell you why he doesn't like your mum then he needs to suck it up and do what's best for everyone else.

Did he really only start having problems with your mum after you had the kids or did he become much more controlling generally - I think we can probably guess.

He thinks HE should be sole decision maker, to the detriment of others.

Why would you want to go out with this little Napoleon anyway? Ditch him for the evening and take your daughters round to your Mum's for a cosy evening together.