I have been sick since Thursday and my fever has come back today, up to 40-degree temp. I also have physical disabilities (more than 1) and this flu is attacking my joints, arthritis, asthma, and more. I feel like I am dying.
I also have a 3-year-old boy who is honest to God crackhead. He is pushing boundaries and I don't have the energy to deal with it. My husband works shifts and his shifts fell on Friday to Monday. He works 10am to 8pm.
Son gets up at 8am and I think okay hubby has an hour before he has to go, hour to myself maybe to try to get my body to work? Haha as if. So I have been with the toddler alone for pretty much two days now and I am so sick I want to cry and in so much pain.
Now when my husband has had man flu colds and texts me that he is struggling, I do a list of things:
- Attempt to toddler into nursery for any of the following days
- If not successful, I call MIL and either send MIL up or husband down to her
- I get him meds
- I come home if he is really struggling
Do I get the same? Do I feck? I am literally sat here with a fever, in severe pain that has me in tears, headache, coughing and barely able to control my son or play with him or cuddle him because it hurts and I just want to go to bed.
I text my husband that I am struggling and I need help and that my fever is back and I need him, I just get I'm sorry your fever is back and you are sick, just keep going.
I am so mad. I do not called him home unless it is an emergency and the last one was months ago and it was nursery who called him out of work not me (our son had impetigo). I honestly can not remember the last time I asked him to leave work because I needed him but he does it to me and I leave if I can.
AIBU to think that he should have left to come home? I would rather take a hit in take home pay (4 hours pay at this point) and have him here to help me than continue to suffer in pain and discomfort.
AIBU when I say that I will no longer attempt to get my son into nursery if my husband is sick or take care of him anymore because clearly it isn't a two way street?
Thanks