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supertato32 · 20/11/2022 16:50

I am a single mother to a two year old girl. I work full time and my ex partner and I share the weekends. He currently lives half an hour away. My ex was the one who walked out on us and choose to live half an hour away. He pays £350 each month and that's it. I have to pay for full time nursery, rent, bills out of my wage. I can't afford all the nursery and I am in a very fortunate position that my parents help pay the half my ex doesn't.

My job is very full on and stressful. It is the cause of my anxiety and stress levels being at an all time high. My daughter also is a crap sleeper, so all in all my mental health is hanging on by a thread.

My parents have suggested moving in with them to their house in the U.K. (they live abroad half the year so wouldn't be there all the time). It would mean I could quit my stressful job, go freelance and spend more time with my daughter. However, it would mean moving an hour and forty minutes away from my ex.

This solution would be so much better for me and my daughter, but means it will be harder for my ex. I would obviously meet half way on pick ups and would suggest he has our daughter for the whole weekend every other weekend.

Am I being unreasonable if I made the move?

OP posts:
Heartsandflora · 20/11/2022 17:43

Yanbu

BattenburgSlice · 20/11/2022 17:47

Yanbu

jollygoose · 20/11/2022 17:47

Don't ask him just do it. He didn't give you any consideration imo you owe him nothing live your life the way works out best.

Mitzigaynor · 20/11/2022 17:49

Just move.
If you give him a heads up he may try to prevent you.

itsme432 · 20/11/2022 17:50

1 hour and 45 minutes isn't that far away imo.

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