How to tell DM her house stinks of pee

[Janedoe95]

DM has just bought a new house, it’s lovely but in her old house the dog used to pee on the rug in the living room and peed between the cushions on the sofa.

both STINK I told her multiple times (and tried to clean for her) and she’s said she’s cleaned them too but it’s done no good.

she’s now in her new house and ofc brought them and they’re already stinking it out. She keeps saying she can’t smell it but other family members have also asked what the smell is.

I don’t live with her, but when I did it was so embarrassing having anyone over trying to pretend it didn’t smell and now every time I visit I want to go shortly after and I’m always paranoid my baby crawls on her rug.

how do I tell her nicely so she actually does something? I know she has insurance on the sofa and if she really wanted could replace the rug but because she can’t smell it doesn’t know how bad it is.

should I just stop saying anything? I can tell she’s getting a bit annoyed with me saying it she’s very house proud and it her home looks immaculate it just smells!

YANBU, but you’ve told her multiple times and she is ignoring you. I think you are going to have to “arrange” for others to also tell her they smell dog wee on the sofa. Does she still have the dog? It could be worded as is your dog alright? Just that I smell dog wee on the sofa and they often become incontinent when ill….

Eeeww, I can feel your frustration, @Janedoe95
Do you think having the furnishings professionally cleaned would help?
I take it the dog has now gone?
If all else fails, I think I'd show DM replies on here to convince her that they really do WHIFF.. :-(

There is no getting through to dog people. I've realised they just don't have a good sense of smell. I'd tell her you love her but all visits from now on will be at your house, as you don't want your baby crawling on dog piss.
This is why I don't even go to people's houses if they have a dog. I don't want to sit on a chair where a dog has peed or had its naked anus on it. So unsanitary.

Buy her some Simple Solution dog spray - it’s great at neutralising the smell. But if she chooses to ignore there’s not a lot you can do.

I’d say “can you smell that?” and if she can’t, just explain she has got used to the smell but you can smell as you aren’t in the house all the time.

If she says “smell what?” or in any way engage then say it’s a pity as you keep new place so lovely but the smell has travelled too, must be in the furnishings.

Agree with asking is dog incontinent - can say “must be hard work looking after dog if pees inside”

I had second hand fabric sofa from an indoor smoker and was amazed that a professional wash made it usable.

I would stop going there and I would definitely stop taking my baby there!!

This is why I don't even go to people's houses if they have a dog. I don't want to sit on a chair where a dog has peed or had its naked anus on it. So unsanitary.

Erm - you do realise that most dogs don't pee on the furniture don't you? We - and virtually all the other dog owners I know - put throws on furniture if dogs are allowed up. We wash the throws regularly and move them for guests to sit down.
And my dogs are always washing their bottoms so they are always sparkly clean!

I know my house smells of dogs - but I love that smell. I find it really comforting.

I tend not to gravitate towards people who hold your views so I'm not aware of any friends refusing to visit because of my dogs. Obviously nobody wants to smell dog pee and I agree it's fairly disgusting that anyone would allow a dog on furniture knowing that will happen.

Buy some of that dog-pee remover from a pet shop. take it round to her house and say "Look what I've just discovered - it's amazing! Can I try it out on your sofa?" Then do it yourself!

Definitely this...

Works great but also the dog should be housetrained better.

Get some of that pee spray that breaks it down.

Yes to the single solution stuff but get the gallon bottle and just poor it all over the sofa until it's sopping wet all the way through and then leave to dry over a few weeks. If you can make this look like an accident, perhaps with a big melodramatic "whoooooooops!" As it glugs out of the bottle for several minutes then bonus points to you.

Why isn't she toileting the outside?

Mum, the house is gorgeous, but that rug and sofa stinking of piss really spoils it.

Yes she still has the dog and he does still pee inside occasionally he is trained but is very, very old she argues that he almost never pees inside but I’ve pointed out that if the rug smells like pee he’s going to continue using it as a toilet and needs to go

I’ve already bought cleaning solution and the dog pee one! But this is a great idea the only problem is I’m certain she’ll know it’s on purpose as I’ve moaned about it so much