To think my childrens god mother don't give a shit

[jadey1991]

I'm so sorry to bore everyone but Need Advice..
Me and my best friends have been friends for 14 years. I have 3 children, 2 of whom I have made her god mother too. Since she has moved out of her place we no longer see her and all she does is make false promises about meeting up and seeing me and the children. I had a baby in December 2021 and throughout my pregnancy I didn't see her and all till now I haven't seen her nor has she met my son.

I'm at a lost cause coz I'm constantly contacting her to see how she is and her children but I don't get nothing back. Now I feel like I can't rely on her of anything was to happen to me.

If anything happens to you you shoukd not rely on godmother anywa😳

But I mean this genuinely, being a “god parent” has absolutely zero legal meaning.
If anything happened to you, then a god parent cannot be relied on for anything.

You haven’t seen this person in a year. She’s not your friend and clearly isn’t interested. I’m sorry about your lost friendship, but you need to leave her alone.

Does she live far? How old are her kids? Do you visit her?

maybe she just busy with life… I won’t overthink it.

I haven't seen my 'godparents' in over 30 years! Means nothing.

An awful lot of godparents can be crap, or at the least unreliable.

Did you have a conversation with her about being there for your kids if you died? If you didn’t she may not have understood how seriously you were taking the role.

Anyway it sounds like she has drifted out of your life, as friends do. The best thing is to move on, sadly.

Rely on her for what? A god parent isn't anything. It's just a perfunctory title.

Being good parent means nothing at all legally. Have you got a will?

That's disappointing. I think you'll have to forget about it and think of different guardians.

Im a godmother to two children. I haven’t seen them or their mother in years as I stopped talking to her over some awful and horrible things she did to me and others. I have no want to see her or the children. She asked me to be godmother and I didn’t want to, but at the time I said yes just to make my friend happy. It’s not something I think about or a duty I care about.
if something happened to her, there is the father (is the father around in your case) or all the grand parents. I have no wish to take on other peoples children and I’m sure not many god parents actually do.

I'm not saying that she will have rights over my children as I know she won't technically. But as a strong believer when I asked her to take on the role of being a godmother and what it comes with she was all up for it. I suppose your all right maybe I should just leave her alone and let her get on with her own life.
As for the person who asked how old Her children are she has a 17,14,12 and 9 year old. I visit her and the children when she is "apparently " not busy but I feel I shouldn't be making effort all the time. I message and call her. She lives about 10min away in a car (she drives I don't) and me 30-35 mins depending on public transport.

@Tirediam I'm sorry you have gone through things with your "friend". However my so called friend knew what being a god parent would be and she was so excited.

I think I'm just gonna have to leave her to it. I can't justify her actions. Maybe it's this new boyfriend she has got who she has been with for less then a year🤨🤨😌😌

I agree. Thank you 🙏🏽

Yes we have spoke about if things happened to me or my partner(taking the grandparent out of the equation as they are old unfortunately)