To be asked the cost of everything we buy???

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Since I've known her, MIL will ask outright what price we paid. New appliance, flooring, dress- anything. I find this SO rude, so rarely tell her. No other family/friends ask this. AIBU ?

Get ur other half to say something to her. Years ago it might have been seen as more vulgar and intrusive but it seems to be more acceptable now to some not for me. I'm the same way it is not acceptable to tell someone how much everything has cost

My husband does this. Makes me die inside a little bit each time.

Next food shop keep your receipt. Hand it over next time she arrives...
Repeat every visit.

My dad's the same and then will exclaim in shock if he thinks it's too much, I asked how much his kitchen cost but I couldn't get it out of him, I genuinely wanted to know because I would have liked to use the same company, but he's very quick to want to know my business.
I find a lot of people want to know how much you paid and then immediately say " oh I know someone who can get x cheaper, you should have asked me"
Like how was I to know 🙄

I’ve had friends ask how much something was, like flooring or a bathroom, but that’s when they’re renewing theirs so it helpful to them and I don’t mind at all. If they just asked about everything, that would be very weird. They’re not weird and wouldn’t be interested.

If just ask her why she needs to know and then say I can’t remember.

That should say

I’d just ask....

Give her wild prices or say between £1 and £500. She will soon get the hint

I don't understand why this is an issue. We've recently moved house and my in laws have too and we're always asking each other how much certain renovations costed so we can get recommendations or decide if something is in budget

MIL is aghast at the cost of most things we buy.
We are renovating, so currently buying lots of appliances. I thoroughly review products, look at the kWh to run it etc. We live frugally and drive a car worth £150!- (according to buy my car) and down don't wear/own branded items, hand bags/shoes etc

Its our forever home, we have bought 2nd hand furniture for parts and reused/repurposed where we could. Its more the direct nature of the ask I find so rude. DH pulled her up recently and she said its a generational thing! She is almost 70.

My SIL does this and I’m pretty sure that she wants to know how much we are spending simply because she’s nosy. It does feel like she’s over-interested in our finances. I would really like to say ‘I don’t want to tell you’ or ‘that’s private’ or ‘it’s rude to ask’ but clearly that wouldn’t be polite. There are ways to ask: ‘I’m thinking of getting one of those and was going to get a quote’ is a polite way to invite someone to tell you. ‘How much was it?’ corners someone and is impolite.

@LimeTwists I agree regarding the wording. If she said 'That's nice. Did you get a good deal?' I'd likely provide a vague reply or more details than I do when she says 'How much was that???'

Exactly - there’s a way to ask! What do you say when you’re put on the spot and have to answer? We have just made a major house purchase and she was asking how much our budget was before we even bought it. I told her I had no idea as we’d only just started to look. Now we have it, she’s definitely going to ask outright how much it was, because she always does. If you have a tactful brush off, I’m all ears!

@LimeTwists - When MIL asked what X cost, DH said 'why do you always ask that? What do you think that brand/item/appliance would cost???'

Turn it around and ask them???

MIL said she was 'just interested' and its a generational thing to ask so directly! None of our other relatives or friends of a similar age have been so direct, nor asked at all. I said we have bought it from an outlet store for half the price. No actual amount given to her 😀