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Confusedmother · 18/11/2022 19:47

Hi all, so I was talking to a friend of mine and we are not really close but I was taken back a bit with something she said to me.

We were chatting about random things and I happened to have had a bad week and said, do you know what I'm getting really annoyed with how much I do around the house. I keep asking the men to do stuff. My house is myself, my husband and my two older sons, both young adults. Anyway I was just venting when I said I wish they would do stuff. This was the reply.

Are you seriously wanting the men to do things, don't you know your place, that's what women are for.
I said no my sons need to know how to do things so they can be independent. My husband does things as that's how he was raised. I just wish they would do more. They are never going to get a partner if this is expected.

She then went into say that's why you make sure they get the right one and she knows her place.

I said you seem really old fashioned and she was annoyed with me.

She also went to comment on this is why you have women playing football, men should be playing not women.

So am I being unreasonable to ask or should I be in my place.

OP posts:
AnneLovesGilbert · 18/11/2022 19:48

How very unusual.

Indigoo03 · 18/11/2022 19:50

Is it linked to culture? Certain countries still have those traditions?

Topgub · 18/11/2022 19:56

She sounds awful

SkylightSkylight · 18/11/2022 20:06

Are you sure she wasn't joking???

if you are sure. How old is she, where was she brought up/what's her cultural background?

EBearhug · 18/11/2022 20:08

Carry on getting your men to do their fair share. Having a penis doesn't make someone incapable of wielding a vacuum or a duster or the like.

Also, in the USA, soccer is considered a women's game more than men's. Women's football was slso hugely popular in the UK until the early 1920s when they were banned by the FA.

I probably wouldn't want to get much closer in the friendship. I am also curious about her cultural background, though.

ScreamingInfidelities · 18/11/2022 20:09

I couldn’t be friends with someone who held these views. There are many things I can agree to disagree on but misogyny isn’t one of them .

Sometimeswinning · 18/11/2022 20:10

Indigoo03 · 18/11/2022 19:50

Is it linked to culture? Certain countries still have those traditions?

So it's OK??? Honestly @Confusedmother you surely know this is not normal??

Onlyforcake · 18/11/2022 20:10

It might be her place but she's an idiot if she thinks all women want the same as her.

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