To ask what made you negative - if you are!!

[FruitTwistandShake]

Had a conversation with a friend of mine the other day over a bottle of wine. We were looking at MN posts (mainly the AIBU) ones and a few of my responses made her ask me why I was so much more negative than I used to be. It really made me think. I used to be glass half full, saw the best in everyone and every situation but now my first reaction to things is usually negative.

I think it stems from being unbelievably hurt in my first relationship that lasted 9 years. I don't think I ever quite felt the same again. Also I have a very negative and paranoid DM and I think over the years it has rubbed off on me.

With that being said I am challenging myself to be a little more 'joyful' and react in slightly nicer/better ways. I hadn't mentioned it to my family but my DH told me last night that he really saw a positive change in me.

Well this got me interested in reasons why people are negative...I thought maybe a post on MN would be more enlightening and cheaper than counselling and I could maybe learn something about myself!

If you have unresolved trauma then that is like looking at life through a grey gloomy prism.
You can pretend to be positive but it's difficult to be genuine without resolving the underlying trauma.

My mother is very negative. It is draining. Sometimes I feel like saying be thankful. But she was always like that. 80s.

I think for me, a series of difficult experiences over a short period of time chipped away at my resilience and ability to brush things off. Covid lockdowns just tipped me over the edge into full blown negativity.

So many reasons. My dad was negative. I was never good enough. I went out with a man who was completely impotent for 5 years. You're right though, need to stop being negative!