to ban my 3 and 5 year old from the TV, and bed time stories for being very naughty on the way back from school

[ineedapoo]

feel a bit guilty now

They sound like normal, frustrating 3yo and 5yo to me. I wouldn't have carried anything across from about the first half hour after getting home.
Maybe I've just got naughty children or a peculiar sense of humour.
Probably depends on what mood you were in before they started, aswell.

at that age, probably too long between the crime and the punishment IMO. I have banned bedtime stories when misbehaving closer to bedtime ("you've wasted my time so now no time for stories").
Don't feel guilty, you put your foot down and they'll know you're serious in the future. Read the various points of view on here and decide whether you'd do the same again another time. Your kids, your choice, and the fact that you a) are exercising discipline b) thinking about whether you did the right thing or not says that you are fab Mum.

The spitting is more than enough for me. I have zero tolerance on it.

i think it was the ignoring that really got to me and the physical violence they had no tv. we had a nice chat at bedtime and told them i loved them lots but no story felt I had to carry through as the ignoring is esculating

dd1 is always more badly behaved after school

tired and hungry mainly

then dd2 winds her up and KABOOOOSH, fighting

feed them immediately, go to park and run around, count to 10(00)

I always try and give them more leeway later in the day than in the morning

ban the tv, but never stories imo

oh don;t feel bad about it. We've all done it

Yes, we have. Don't feel bad.

Itss a bit much to ban both. Banning TV is fine but I would let them have their bedtime stories

can you distract them/bustle them off when you collect them and perhaps sit one in the front on the way home? i think transition from home to school is a flash point for lots of kids - i've changedmy routehome from school just so my 3 don't mess about with the same kids onthe walkhome - different ones instead!

good idea lucky. i have tried food, i spy etc but will try other routes
i feel so guilty now want to wake them up to say sorry

aw no, we have all come down too hard and regretted it afterwards

say sorry in the morning if you like but do speak to them calmly about why you got so cross

it may have more effect than a big blow up and lots of punishments

hope tomorrow is better for you

stop feeling guilty, it's perfectly normal. And you can say sorry tomorrow and explain again why you were cross. Don't get all wimpy about it though. They were trying to wind you up nd they succeeded. Doesn't mean you don't also show you love each other.

I think you had to carry it through, but I never ban bedtime stories, dd2 6 is now saying she doesnt need a bedtime story and I am having a hard time convincing her that I do.

poor ineedapoo. Sounds just like some of my homewardbound journeys. My Ds1 is only 4 1/2 and already in schoolfull time, due to when his birthday falls and the policy of the school. He is TOTALLY KNACKERED by the end of the school day and I have to be careful how I handle him or he goes into a total sobbing 'meltdown'. It's hard getting the balance right between insisting on good behaviour and understanding that this touchyness and on-the-edgeness (not a real word - I know) is all down to his tiredness.

I recently tried rewarding consistent good behaviour by doing something really fun at the weekend instead of my ususal yelling/timeouts etc for bad behaviour. It has helped a bit! He has calmed down quite a lot.

I would ban tv but would never ban bedtime story.