I have three children, 7, 12 and 14. I stopped at home until the 12 year old was 4 and then went back to work before unexpectedly (husband had had a vasectomy!) falling pregnant with dc3. I stopped home until she was 3 and then went back very very part time - which then led into the pandemic anyway so it was difficult to do much more as I then had three children at home (like most people).
In September I changed my role and I’m now almost full time in a more demanding job. I am much more tired and it obviously takes me being a lot more organised with the dc and the house to fit everything in.
My youngest is now at a childminder two afternoons and wrap around two afternoons. I can get her one afternoon as I finish slightly earlier on that day. I can take her every day.
My mother keeps telling me how tragic it is that she is missing out compared to dc1 and dc2 and that she will be too tired and won’t cope. She keeps saying what a shame it is for dc3 as she is losing out because I selfishly want a career. My own mother never worked after having me.
Im a bit tired of it. I do miss having time with dc3 and I am much more tired but I also need to have a job.
aibu? My mum says dc3 will be ‘damaged’ by it. The only thing I will say is because I am SO tired by the time I finish work, do dinner etc I don’t really feel like doing a huge amount with the dc and at the weekends I am also pretty worn out.