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Flute56 · 17/11/2022 23:44

There are threas on here about women finding their physiotherapists attractive and whilst I do not fancy mine I think he may fancy me.

I have not been to hi for a few months as I did not need to but recently had to see him. The first thing he said was it is lovely to see you again. Now I am not sure if that means he was glad to see me because he likes me as a woman or he was just saying that because obviously when I see him I pay a fee and he gets the money so naturally he woul be glad to see me becaue I pay him for his services. Then at the end of the session he sai see how you get on andd you can phone me and let me now how you are. By that he means phone him at his surgery.

Should physiotherapists be saying these things

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Micsam89 · 17/11/2022 23:53

He doesn't fancy you. This is normal human interaction.

ZombiePara · 18/11/2022 00:02

Literally, that is him being cheerful and professional. He will say that to all of his clients. By follow up calls - that is to see if what he does has worked or if there are other treatment methods or home exercises that may be needed - ie - he doesnt know how you feel post treatment and wont know if you feel bad still unless you tell him.

No doubt if he were to say nothing along those lines, there would a be a post up about how grumpy the physio is and why and how dare he.

Give ya head a wobble, get the thoughts out and move on.

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Flute56 · 18/11/2022 00:20

At least by phoning hi its not costing me anything except the price of a phone call

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SantaOnFanta · 18/11/2022 00:20

Sounds like normal chit chat to me... Doubt he fancies you.

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Flute56 · 18/11/2022 00:35

ok I find it hard to tell thee difference between someone being friendly an someone actually fancying me. I may have got this all wrong. In any case I dont fancy him but it does gie your ego a boost to know someonen liees you even though you dont feel the same

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CallieQ · 18/11/2022 01:18

Confused my physio was just the same but I didn't think he fancied me!

RiverSkater · 18/11/2022 01:19

My physio says all this too, I'm in my 50s and a mess and he's in his 20s.

He's just got good people skills. 😊

ilovesooty · 18/11/2022 01:27

It sounds perfectly normal to me. My chiropractor says similar things. He's a good 30 years younger than I am.

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Flute56 · 18/11/2022 13:12

well i once met someoe who did fancy me and I was not imagining it. Ater about 6 months of no indication from him to me he suddenly asked if I wanted to go to the cinema. I still had no idea of his motives and afterwards he confesse to fancying me but felt too awkward so that was why I had no idea. He never flirted with me. Anyway he sai he wanted a girlfriend and would I consider him.

I only saw him as a friend so I said no in the nicest possible way. I just said I had come out of a really long relationship and did not want to get involved with anyone for the time being.

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ilovesooty · 18/11/2022 13:18

Even with your update I really don't see any indication that your physiotherapist fancies you.

LordEmsworth · 18/11/2022 13:23

Are you aware that asking someone to the cinema is different to a medical professional wanting to know how you get on with the treatment they give you?

I mean, it's entirely possible he does fancy you - but the examples you've listed don't suggest he does. "Lovely to see you again" doesn't mean either I want to jump into bed with you, or kerching lovely money - it's a pretty bog standard small talk/etiquette thing to say when seeing someone you haven't seen for a while. Have you never learnt manners?

I've not read a single post about a MNer fancying their physio by the way.

maddy68 · 18/11/2022 13:28

Flute56 · 17/11/2022 23:44

There are threas on here about women finding their physiotherapists attractive and whilst I do not fancy mine I think he may fancy me.

I have not been to hi for a few months as I did not need to but recently had to see him. The first thing he said was it is lovely to see you again. Now I am not sure if that means he was glad to see me because he likes me as a woman or he was just saying that because obviously when I see him I pay a fee and he gets the money so naturally he woul be glad to see me becaue I pay him for his services. Then at the end of the session he sai see how you get on andd you can phone me and let me now how you are. By that he means phone him at his surgery.

Should physiotherapists be saying these things

What?? You are bonkers. This is completely normal conversation.

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Flute56 · 19/11/2022 21:26

RiverSkater · 18/11/2022 01:19

My physio says all this too, I'm in my 50s and a mess and he's in his 20s.

He's just got good people skills. 😊

I agree with all of the responses now but what I will say that my physeotherrapist is perhaps about the same age as me.

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jamimmi · 19/11/2022 22:05

OP I can assure you he doesn't fancy ypu if this is all hes done. I say this all the time to my patients and believe me I don't fancy any of them ! ( I'm a physio BTW)

WillowintheUK · 19/11/2022 22:14

I’m in my late 60s and a wee dumpy woman. My physio says the same, and he’s a young fit man of about 30. I doubt very much he fancies me.

LIZS · 19/11/2022 22:27

Is that not a normal hcp passing the time of day? If issue persists ring and they will decide whether you need ti be seen again in person.

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Flute56 · 19/11/2022 23:38

WillowintheUK · 19/11/2022 22:14

I’m in my late 60s and a wee dumpy woman. My physio says the same, and he’s a young fit man of about 30. I doubt very much he fancies me.

being a wee dumpy woman as you call yoursel shouldd not make the slightest dierence. as to whether a man fanies you or not. Women of all shapes and sizes get partners. I am quite a slim average height woman and I am single. I have friends but consider myself an introert and I woul suggest men like women who are the life and soul of the party and that is not me

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Flute56 · 19/11/2022 23:45

what I will say is that on perhaps my second visit to this physio, at the enddd of the visit as he was saying goodbye he put out his hand an squeeze my shoulder. Now, the session as over, he ha dno need to do that. He never did it again but I always wondered what that was about, He should not be touchy feely ater the session

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Mookie81 · 19/11/2022 23:59

I think he should run and hide before you have him strung up!!

ilovesooty · 20/11/2022 00:02

The more I read the OP and subsequent posts the stranger this gets.

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Flute56 · 20/11/2022 00:26

Mookie81 · 19/11/2022 23:59

I think he should run and hide before you have him strung up!!

I would not strig him up as you say. He is a goo physiotherapist and much better than y last one who did nothing for me so I left

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ilovesooty · 20/11/2022 01:47

Is there something wrong with your keyboard?

lifeinthehills · 20/11/2022 01:52

I've had professionals say that to me. Usually it's because they know me well enough to be interested in having caught up with me. It doesn't mean anything, though it sounds like you wish it did.

Tiani4 · 20/11/2022 02:06

Wow, this is a lot of projection for you OP

"Normal interaction with physiotherapist, must mean he fancies me as he's my age .. he asked me to ring him!! at the GP surgery to feedback on my physio progress like a professional"

I think you're over reaching here OP, or have an active imaginary fantasy life where random people around you fancy you and there's hidden meaning in ...

Unless you're drip feeding (I'm sure you would have started with more detail if there was more)

Please stop and respect the health care practitioner to patient relationship you have as this is inappropriate

Sorry, but as a professional who works with physios in our team regularly, it's frustrating to hear any patient talk like this about their HCP. Both male and female physiotherapists are particular vulnerable (like nurses) to being sexually harassed in the workplace by patients.

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Flute56 · 20/11/2022 08:41

I am not harrassing anyone. I was with someoe for 15 years so would find it hard to accept someone else. The person I was with pssed away and we were very good together. I have become very set in my ways now and someone else would have to be prepared to allow me to do what I do. Obviously theere has to be give and take but i do not want to spend the rest of my life not having anyone have feelings towars me whether I enjoy it or not. It is hard wheen you have been with omeone and used to them giving you atteention and then thinking I do not ever want anyone else becaue they woul not be the person you had and then you find yourself in the close company of soeone else and even though you do not fancy theem it helps you to get used to being close to someone again and by that I mean the physical toch o a phyio therapist and you realise what you have been missing since your partner anddd ten you think yes now I might be ready to find someone else.

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