NC for this. Had a spat with DH last night and still reeling, so need a reality check.
I had a stiff shoulder yesterday so I asked DH to give me a massage. I told him exactly where it hurts and what I need yet 30 seconds in he switched to a completely different place. I asked him again and showed him where it hurts, explained what I need. Yet after another 30 seconds he switched again to a different place (and this is not 'slip of fingers' different place - think moving from shoulder to forehead). So I got upset.
He said it usually helps him when he has a stiff shoulder to massage that spot. This actually fuelled my upset as he ALWAYS does this - when I ask for a massage because something hurts, when we have sex... I told him that he's being patronising thinking he knows what feels good for ME better than I do, ignoring repeatedly what I ask for. He said I'm overreacting. So am I? I appreciate this is not a dealbreaker but I do feel that since its not a single isolated event and it actually extends into other spheres of our life together (like sex) - it was sort of a last drop.