Is this really bad?

[Z0rr0]

A friend is moving house. We're helping them on moving day.
As part of the clear out she brought several bin bags of clothes destined for the charity shop for my DD to look through. DD chose a few bits but most of it is not stuff she likes. To save the friend having to worry about it I said I would take the bags to the charity shop but I'm tempted to sell a few bits on Vinted. They're not mega things just hoodies I would sell for a couple of quid.
Is that wrong? I personally wouldn't care if the situation was reversed (if I couldn't be arsed to sell and was taking to the charity but friend could be arsed to sell) but I feel like some people might think that was bad and somehow my moral compass has gone a bit wonky.
Should I not do this?

If your daughter was finished, they should still go to charity. The options are your daughter or charity. Selling them is the same as stealing from the charity. Unless you have clear permission to sell them, you have no right to sell them.

you are stealing from the charity

You're going to do it anyway, so why ask

And it's not about profit. I list stuff on there for 3 quid at the most. It's more about recycling.

bollocks

If it was recycling then the Cs would be exactly the same.

The only decent things to do are either give to Cs or suggest to her you do vinted and split the proceeds

I work for a national charity with quite a lot of shops and also volunteerin a local hospice one. We're absolutely desperate for decent quality clothes in both. A 10 year grubby primark t-shirt might go in the rag bags but anything that's wearable definitely not.

Ask her if DD can sell a few bits on Vinted for some pocket money?

I think its wrong. You say it's not about the money, but then why go to the trouble of listing them on vinted in the first place?
If its about recycling then if they are good enough to sell on vinted,its good enough to sell at the charity shop.

Good point about the things selling in the charity shop if they would sell on Vinted. All the shops round here are overflowing with stuff and struggle to sort it and dispose of the stuff they don't want. But maybe these days things are selling more quickly.

But surely it’s just more work for you if you have to take the time to sell on vinted and then donate the money to the charity shop? The charity shop can just do it for you and cut out the middle man!

No that's not OK, if it isn't about the money and you're concerned about shops scrapping it because they have too much, distribute the stuff amongst different charity shops

That you're tying yourself in knots over it shows you clearly don't think it's all above board. Just ask her if she minds and take the lead from her. Everything else is just hypothesising.

I was the giver in a recent situation. I offered some old (too small) work clothes to a friends DD for her new job as she isn't earning very much and said I don't want any back so do what you want with what is left such as pass them to someone else or give to charity. Friend came back and said she kept XYand Z but sold a couple of bits on Vinted and used the money for a new work blazer. And gave some to charity. But I think I had relinquished when I said to do what you want with any you don't want. If I had said give to charity I might be a bit hmmm if I knew they had been sold by mum for her to have the cash

I think in this situation I would say something like "some things in the bag sell easily on vinted, have you considered that?" either she will say okay give it back for me to do that or she will so no go ahead!

How can you say its not for profit, you were given the stuff for free so anything you'd make selling it would all be profit

You told you friend you would take the bags to the charity shop so you need to do that or ask her if she minds you selling the stuff. To say you will do one thing and then do something else which will make you money is underhanded. If you thought it was fine you would just tell your friend what you are doing. I think you will do it anyway. Hopefully your friend will be understanding if you don't tell her and she finds out, I wouldn't be but maybe you're happy to gamble a friendship for a few pounds.

I think you pass things on in the spirit it was given to you. You buy it, you can sell it, if it was given for free you donate or pass it on to someone who could use it
Don't profit from good fortune, it's crass

Yeah I wouldn't, but then I wouldn't sell something I'd been given either. I usually pass on the good fortune to someone else if I can. You're basically thieving from her IMO.

What a kerfuffle over a few old hoodies! I usually take stuff to charity shops but last week I threw some items in the bin because the charity shop workers just look irritated at having to find space for more things.

I would ask and offer to split the money.
Say you do it as a hobby and have spotted some items that sell well.

I think it is fine - she is moving and just wants rid of that stuff and obviously can’t be bothered to sell it herself. She gave it all to your daughter anyway and lots of charity shops do bin things.

Most charity shops have more than they can sell and unload it by the kilo for pennies.
Plus the friend said OP's DD could have it all, and only anyhting left over was for the charity shop. Nobody is getting robbed.

Op just tell your friend. No doubt she's way less angry and judgy than this lot, and won't care. If she does, just give her the stuff back. There's nothing her to get worked up about

Personally I would not mind at all if you did this, especially if you were helping me out on moving day. I doubt your friend would mind either but it would probably be polite to ask her first.

I would ask first and offer to split the profit

You know that for sure do you?? 🤔

Stuff people might like on Vinted" - so they'd like it in a charity shop then wouldn't they.
I disagree. If you are on Vinted or similar, you will probably search for something specific. I went to a charity shop today to buy christmas cards and a book, and also bought a pair of jeans and a blouse. I would not have bought them on ebay because I wouldn't have searched for jeans or silk blouse.