Was this rude?

[NotSureYet86]

So I was having a work meeting with this woman I’d never met before a couple of weeks ago. She started talking about equality and diversity and said something along the lines of you’re an over privileged white girl so I wouldn’t understand. She then said she thought I had a disability, and I said no I don’t (because I don’t) and she then said oh I thought you did when you walked in. AIBU to think this is quite rude? If I did have a disability and as I don’t I’m a bit baffled what she thought it was. I didn’t know whether to call her out on it not being a polite way to speak to someone or not? The whole thing was bizarre and she generally seems to have a rude/abrasive manner, just not sure how I should have dealt with it!

When I introduced myself at the meeting she said “I thought you were Asian when we were emailing”. Those were her first words to me

She then said she thought I had a disability, and I said no I don’t (because I don’t) and she then said oh I thought you did when you walked in.

I'd be going to HR or making a complaint to her boss for these comments.

😂

Did your colleague say anything after the meeting about her behaviour?

.....and?
She needn't be polite to someone who's seemingly going out of their way to be as rude as possible.

You need to report this. She was being incredibly unprofessional in the way she spoke you, and I would personally find her comments offensive. No one should be speaking like this to anyone.

How did she get onto this subject?

I'd complain about her to whoever manages her or contracted her in if I were you. She has absolutely no professionalism. All that said, there are valid points to be made about intersectionality and why white people just cannot understand certain aspects of the 'POC' experience but that's neither here nor there if that wasn't even the subject of the meeting.