I was about to leave to walk DD to nursery in the pouring rain. Looking for my raincoat. Turns out DP wore it to cycle to work yesterday (I was in the office so didn't know this) and has forgotten to bring it home.
I snapped, and said he'll have to get out bed and take her then, and took my tea into the front room and shut the door.
The reason I snapped is that this is a trend and I'm so fed up of him forgetting things, not being able to see past the end of his nose and not being able to think more than an hour ahead of him at a time!!! Forgot his bike lock at work so had to bring the muddy bike into the house. Packing for holiday, I ask him to put one single thing in the suitcase for me while he's upstairs, he says yes he has but he hasn't. Forgets to pick up things I ask him for when he goes past the shop, the list goes on. I don't care if he forgets or loses his own stuff but when he's careless and thoughtless with my stuff, or does things that affect our family life then I draw the line!
He thinks he has undiagnosed ADHD (and I do agree he displays a lot of those behaviors) and of course I'm sympathetic if he actually does and will be supportive, but surely he needs to see his GP if that's the case? From where I'm sat, his unwillingness to actually do anything about it makes me feel like he's just using it as an excuse for laziness and thoughtlessness.
To avoid a drip feed, I really don't care that he borrowed my coat without asking. And we split the parenting pretty much 50/50. It was my turn to get up and do the breakfast and nursery run, i.e there's no issue with him being a lazy dad, in fact he'd do more if it weren't for work!