To not want to share food?

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Meeting up with 4 friends for lunch, we live in different cities so we arrange in advance. Friend booked table and you could pick between two small dishes.

I sent my choices to her and she said she’d make sure no- one else picked the same as me so then we could all share. Aibu to just want to have the dishes I want … so I don’t look greedy eating the majority of one of the dishes?

Just say you dont fancy anything else on the menu so you will just have those 2

Yeah just say that, you picked those because you really didn't fancy anything else!

Yup just say. I'm a veggie and always have to say at sharing dinners, otherwise I'd be left with nowt to eat

YANBU.

I hate when people try and make everyone else order lots of small dishes so everyone can pick and share.

Just say “No thank you. I only fancy these 2 items so I’ll be paying for them and eating them both”

You never know, the others in the group may be feeling the same as you do.

Yeah.. I had a rather massive meltdown once after expressing that I would NOT be sharing food and why, and someone ate half my naan bread!

I explained, I would be ordering the two things on the menu I actually enjoyed and would eat (ARFID, various other issues), and as I wouldn't be having rice I would be using my naan bread to eat my curry with.

Everyone agreed, and then at the meal, someone took half my naan, along with their rice and loads of other shared things. I was the only person who had ordered plain naan, everyone else had gone for rice or keema naan.

Not proud but there was shouting! Think Smithy from Gavin and Stacey... but slightly less food involved!

OOFT nothing worse. You go to these events starving, having made sure everyone knows of your circumstances (vegetarian in my case) and people devour all the veggie stuff as well as the meat things leaving you with half an egg mayo sandwich and a veggie samosa if you're lucky 🙄 of course meat eaters are entitled to eat non meat options but when they've specifically requested certain things beforehand then proceed to grab everything with no consideration of others - it boils my p*££. One of the reasons I don't socialise if I can get out of it anymore 🤦

Sorry I know that must have been irritating but 😂

I was bloooooooooody starving, back in the days of scrounging loose change for a takeaway, and absolutely looking forward to stuffing a whole curry and naan down my face (and eating any left overs for breakfast!)... I was incandescent!

Er to clarify, I mean scrounging round the house, pockets, down the back of the sofa, not in the streets!!!

OK Joey 😁
I'm a picky eater so no I wouldn't want to share food either.

YANBU

I would say I only want xyz from the menu and will not be sharing. I am not afraid of stabbing someone with my fork over the food I’ve asked and am paying for. Sharing should not automatically be expected simply because you’re eating with someone else. I get enough of it at home with the 5 yo hovering over and having to tell him no and to stop asking please for my food. I’m not sharing with grown adults when I do not want to.

I always make a joke of it and say I am like Joey from Friends, I don’t share food. If people don’t get it or still want to, I tell them I have phobias around it, which is true. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to. I would rather people think me a bit weird than give in as I wouldn’t enjoy the meal.

This thread has triggered you 🤣

My PIL's learned very quickly we don't share what we order, apart from a wee taste.

They always order terrible stuff and we order what we know we will like.

They were surprised at first, now FIL orders what he would like to eat and not experiment while with us

Yup.. totally triggered... WIDDLIN' DOESN'T SHARE FOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOD...

Fair 😀

This thread had me chuckling but yeah, I have sort of stabbed someone's hand when they tried to take food of my plate after I made it very clear that I ordered my favourite dish and would absolutely not share.

My MIL is like this with takeaways.

We don't live in the UK so when we do visit, the option of an Indian or Chinese takeaway is a real treat.

MIL: Ooh, I don't know, just get what you usually have and I'll have some of yours.

Me: That absolutely won't be happening.

MIL: But there's usually some left over?

Me: Yes, and that will be my breakfast.

We have other relatives who always order different dishes from a menu in a restaurant, eat exactly half and then swap plates. Noooooo, just no.

We are currently thinking about moving back to the UK. One of the main bonuses will be the utter joy of left over take away from the fridge the next day :-)

Not unreasonable at all! I am not a fussy eater and very happy to try new/different things and eat a variety but I am vegetarian so sharing is no good if I eat with meat eaters. I usually just say this though - it's never been an issue as it's not hard to understand.

What sort of a restaurant is it? If it's tapas or something similar then it would be weird not to share but if it's a restaurant where the dishes are definitely individual then it's odd for her to think you would.