I would love to have someone's opinion on this because I can't talk about it in RL. It's not much but it bothered me.
A few years ago I woke up from a dream that my little niece had died. She is the long awaited only child of my brother and his wife.
All that day I carried a heavy emotional weight. I saw intensely what it would mean to my brother (and his wife) if their daughter were to die. I can only describe it as having a hot line to both their love for the child and the enormity of their grief if something were to happen. I carried the feeling as a strange burden without knowing what to do with it or why I was feeling it. I have my own children and while I'm very fond of my niece, it wouldn't be my place to feel like this.
I had an urge to call my brother and ask him to take special care of his daughter. Then I thought that it was not appropriate. I also thought that the act of phoning him could make a difference to whatever happened next. This is all crazy and not how I operate usually! In the end I think I said a prayer, more of a one line "Deal with it!" prayer.
The next day my niece fell in what was described as 'a terrible fall'. The following day she became ill as a result of the head injury. I did fear the worst but thankfully she recovered.
So why on earth had I felt such grief? Did my feeling it make any difference to the outcome, did I pick something weird up and react to it uselessly or was it a coincidence?
Should I have warned my brother?
The only other thing to add is that another brother was tragically widowed last year. His wife died suddenly. The day before the tragedy, I was thinking about how I should support that brother if he was widowed. I remember thinking of his small children and what he would need and how I would have to put my own concerns to one side. I have never thought like that before or since. By the following evening I had travelled five hundred miles from my home and was carrying out the tasks I had imagined I would have to do in those circumstances. I didn't have any idea that it would ever come to pass when I'd been thinking of it. The death was unthinkable and completely out of the blue. She was not ill before that day.
Again, why? There is one medication that would have saved my sister in law if she had received it in time. It's not an obscure medication. If this isn't a coincidence, why couldn't I have thought of the medication? Her condition was so rare that drs didn't think to check for it until it was too late.
This has bothered me a lot over the years. I'd like to know what on earth is happening, if anything. It's not like this happens at other times so I can't put it down to a preoccupation with illness and death.