To walk away from this person because of their best friend’s behaviour?

[RelationshipAdvice96]

So I’ve recently started talking to someone (a female, I am bi) but since day one her best friend has caused issues. It started because we had been speaking 3/4 weeks and I hadn’t met this person face to face yet (I’m a single parent and my child had school holidays and then was on and off vomiting for 2 weeks so was home from school and the couple of days I did have free the other person was working and it’s hard to take a spontaneous day off in her work place - catering for events) and since then it’s been one thing after the other, apparently her friend isn’t sure about me because she thinks I’m too much (it’s my sense of humour which is very similar to the person I’m speaking to) and she thinks I’m not good enough for her friend because it took me a month to meet face to face (for reasons above which she knows about) and apparently that shows I don’t put in any effort etc.

The woman I’m speaking to has already told her to stop doing this because she knows my reasonings and is very understanding of the situation I’m in - I’ve always been very honest of what I can give to somebody and never gave false expectations etc - which she accepted and chose to continue things with me regardless and we get on extremely well and make each other very happy - but her best friend is continuously trying to put things in her head about me and saying things about me and now her partner (who I’ve never even met) has started stalking my social media pages and telling her who I follow, what I’ve been commenting on etc (nothing inappropriate it’s just to shit stir basically).

Even though I potentially do see a future here, it’s such an immature headache and drama (we are all the same age - early 30’s) and it’s just not something I feel I should have to or want to deal with - but equally I know it’s not the person who I’m speaking to fault because she has been friends with her for a very long time and I would never ask her to choose and want to cause their friendship to break down because that wouldn’t be fair - but WIBU to let her and this opportunity go essentially because this is just too much to deal with?

But how do you know all the things the friend has said and done? Who has told you?

If it is the woman you’re interested in - relaying it all to you - then run a mile. This is a shitshow.

What a waste of energy.

Honestly, dating and love shouldn’t be this hard. Move on.

@OovoofWelcome yes it is her telling me and she’s sent me screenshot’s of the conversations and things…

This exactly.

Get away while you can. It's not normal or healthy.

I don't understand why she is telling you what her friend of saying. Seems to me she's after some drama and is one to avoid.

Why? Would you do that?

Yeah the woman you like is a shit stirrer, she’s best friends with a nasty bitch for a reason (there is always a reason these sort gravitate to each other), and you are well out of it because there are so many red flags here.
Save yourself headaches and drama and throw this one back.
There’s nothing wrong with taking it slow when you’re a single parent. Hope you find someone nice.

Ah right. Well then it’s pathetic. End it (whatever it is) and move on.

This

This friend isn't the problem here.

Who send screenshots of private conversations with their best mate to virtual strangers online?

You know your responses will be getting sent too.

This woman clearly loves to pit people against each other while remaining the centre of attention at all times.

I'd give this up now and move on.

If they are showing you the messages from her best friend then she's trying to create drama between you. Its almost as though she wants her gf and bf to fight each other over her, pulling hair and scratching faces...

RUN OP, RUN!!

Thank you for all the responses this time of night! Yeah to be honest I think everyone is right… there will be someone else I like at some point that hopefully comes without all this drama too!

Anyone that is forcing you to meet at their pace and causing such drama with their the best friend should be avoided.

Why?

@IMissVino I have no idea it would be a random message like oh someone’s not happy with you today… or so and so has been on about you today…

Ugh she sounds unhinged and deeply immature. Not a viable option for anything other than a trumped up little empty drama.

That’s utterly batshit. Bin this person.

Dear god. Block her immediately.

Assuming the friend actually exists. People like this are a pain in the backside, they love the drama of being centre of attention and fought over. You don't need this hassle in your life.

Apparently, Simon Cowell did this before he settled down with the mother of his child. He would invite a handful of ex girlfriends on holidays or house stays. Knowing they didn't get on and they would bicker constantly with him as some weird over lord.

She sounds unhinged. She is either making up this friend, or she is friends with some nasty people. Either way -showing you messages saying her friend thinks you aren't good enough etc. is manipulative and unkind - designed get you feeling insecure, so you feel you need to 'prove' yourself to her.

You sound like a nice person and you deserve better.

This woman you like sounds AWFUL and she's loving the drama. She's trying to play you and the BF off to fight over her. Do not engage!! Pathetic

The dynamic between them is too weird.
Block and move on.

How strange. Who does that?!

She's a drama llama. You'd constantly have issues to face being with her.

Move on, you can do better.