Ok so I’m a “grown up”, late 30’s, married have 4 young children. I’m close to my parents and live near to them so see them a few times a week.
My mum and dad have been married for over 40 years and have always had a rocky relationship I’d say, they have frequent arguments and fall out quite a lot, it’s fairly toxic at times.
Recently there’s been family stress and health problems for both of them and their arguments/fall outs have ramped up a bit, they have no issues about arguing in front of me, my kids, or husband.
Over the years my dad has always tried to keep me out of their arguments, doesn’t really talk to me about their issues and would never expect me to take sides. My mum on the other hand, tells me frequently about their arguments, talks really negatively about my dad and expects me to comment and take her side.
Today they had a massive argument in front of me (which as far as I could judge, there was fault in both sides) and now my mum
has fallen out with me because I haven’t taken her side.
AIBU to expect not to be drawn into their arguments and to not be expected to take sides? I don’t think I should be involved but it’s been going on for so many years I wonder if I’m wrong, what is normal?!?!