Are second babies easier?

[Cuppasoupmonster]

…In your experience. Just a simple poll!

YABU = no they’re not
YANBU = yes they are

It's totally personality dependent.

DS1 was a dream baby, independent, slept thru the night from 10 days old, but a hell hound of a toddler and still pretty sketchy emotionally and he's 11 now.

DS2 was a greedy baby piglet and fed all around the clock but still an easy baby. Easy toddler, easy going, happy go lucky kid who is now, and always has been, much wiser than his years (8 now).

Thankfully neither of them cried much as babies, we're smiley happy little souls but oh my god the toddler years were hard with DS1.

Agreed! (From a very small sample
size).

No, not in my experience!

I have a 3 year old who slept through from a couple of months old. I also have a 13 month old who has never slept all night..ever!! And she is generally harder work than dd1 was.
My sister has 2 dcs the similar age and her 2nd is alot easier than her first one.
So I think it totally depends on the child and not if they are 1st or 2nd born.

Yep!
My second was about 90% easier! He didn’t cry (barely ever) and just sat there watching us for 12 months.
Then he became a toddler with horns 😈

Relative to a two year old second baby seems very easy.

My second was an absolute dream. My first however, wowzers, tricky (but lovely!)

Nope 😁

Omg yes! Gave birth in 20 mins, good baby slept by herself for majority of the night...no issues...

Mine was. I treasure that time [glares at size 9 Air Force] - they really do grow up very quickly.

Agree with this. I had my second baby within a few weeks of my sister having her first and I honestly think she thought I was borderline neglectful because I wasn't too arsed about routines and tracking every last fart.

God yes. And subsequents!

Erm... I mean they say you never have two the same....?
My second was the most wonderful baby, slept through the night from 8 weeks old, rarely cried, always happy. Now she's 9 and my god is she mouthy

Mine was an absolute horror, 50 years later he still is and we have been NC for several years, third one though was angelic.

My second was easier, mostly because she slept really well which made a big difference to my mental health. Really think it is baby dependent though.

Mine was wasaaaay easier (first child cried all the time. Second slept all the time - both now very happy and lively teens.)

This! She was a much easier toddler than my first though. Nothing to do with their birth order, it’s just their personalities. Mine are chalk and cheese (but get on really well)

It's just ur luck! It def wasn't the case for me. I wish mine had been the other way around. Was so hard second time as I had a toddler to look after too on pretty much no sleep!

First born was a happy baby that never cried much at all. Slept through from 6wks old often I had to wake her, she wld sleep 12-14hrs most nights. An absolute delight I loved maternity leave, it really was a long holiday for me 😃

Second omg stayed up all night for the first few months or that's how it felt lol. Probably survived on a few hrs broken sleep every night. She was terrible at feeding wld take an hour to take an ounce of milk and even when it got to weaning she didn't like that either. Eventually was on omeprazole for reflux/sickness. Wasn't as happy as first born and cried a lot more.

I always feel like I'm thinking this time next year she will be so much better/easier and to be fair she is now but well, still hard work 😂 She's almost 3 and a very demanding little girl that knows what she wants. She's also very loving and cute though.

1. Slept 12 hour nights from 6 weeks old, 3 hour daytime sleeps until she was nearly 4. Are everything nicely.
2. Didn't sleep longer than 4 hours ever until 20 months, often woke after 2, have up naps at 18 months. Refused all soles until 10months and was very fussy even then.

definitely not easier with 2.

No.
My ds2 was a fucking nightmare until he was 2.
Urghhh. I never went back for a third..

I'm more relaxed second time around because I know the ropes a bit more. I know he's not a fragile as he looks etc.

But DS2 is the devils child. He has hated life from birth to 14m. At nearly 18m now he's coming out the other side and we're seeing his cheeky little personality more but he's still quick to show displeasure at any given moment.

My second was a screaming nightmare! Turns out I was starving him though as he was a different baby once on the bottle and now, at 13, he has me in hysterics every day, he's the most wonderful, loving boy and the first 3 months were totally worth it to have him!

No, mine split into two halves.

Ours was, yes. Tbf to our first though we were 9 years older and probably much more relaxed.

Now I ve stopped laughing, NO!!! DD was an absolute dream sleeping 12 hours at 6 weeks and a great daytime routine, it was so easy I wondered what all the fuss was about. Then we had DS 22 months later and I was brutally punished!! He didn’t sleep through until he was about 4, years not months! I went back to work and we were still getting up four times in the night. If it had been the other way around DD would have been an only child.

What was easier was the toddler stage, I felt like I only went through that once as they played together and entertained each other really well in the preschool years.

I guess it’s different for everyone as i know people who had a tough time first time round and their second was a dream but that was not my experience!

I found the second time infinity easier.

Although my second child is a lot harder personality wise, the whole experience is easier with not being a new parent and all that entails