DS has been with the childminder since May give or take numerous days missed due to illness (second child). DD is 16 months. Fiesty, independent and also sometimes very clingy. I like my childminder, she doesn’t sugar coat things and her home always seems calm and clean and I’ve always had a positive good feeling.
lately however I’ve find her quite unreasonable, I’m not sure if I’m being sensitive. For example:
Moans ALOT about how clingy DS can be, wants to be cuddled etc when they go to playgroup
Described DS as Jekyll and Hyde, said he’s the most difficult baby she’s ever looked after, and I’m going to have my work cut out when older
Have witnessed her being very stern with DS, maybe I’m being overly sensitive here but shouting “no” and grabbing his hand when he pulls my hair when I drop off for example
Said that her friend (who recommended her) apologised because DS is so difficult to manage (I was shocked she told me this!)
sometimes can’t wait to give me DS when I pick him up because “he’s a nightmare”
Gives him snacks that aren’t suitable/ lets him eat all morning because “that’s the only time he’s happy”
I Don’t believe DS has any developmental problems, I’ve also asked her and she said no.
I liked the idea of a childminder as they get to go out with her to the farm etc rather than being inside all day in a nursery but now I’m starting to regret my decision. Maybe this is better on the CM thread but I would have thought that she may offer some solutions as opposed to just stating how difficult DS is all the time. Am I being OTT? I know DS can be clingy and is extremely independent but these to me, are pretty normal things. Should I pull him out? Am I expecting too much? I liked that she’s honest but it seems to me a bit harsh imo.