to find it strange that people ask to meet you then don't reply when you say yes?

[HalleBerrysBikini]

Hi,

I'm not miffed about this, just a bit confused. As you're all cyber geniuses I wonder if you could explain if I'm just misunderstanding the eqiquette.

I'm pg at the moment, and as we haven't lived here long don't really know anyone locally. Someone on a pregnancy message board lived near to me and we got chatting online and she asked if I would like to meet for coffee sometime. She emailed me with some baby advice, and I replied to her asking her a few friendly questions. Then I never heard from her again. She still posts all the time on the baby board so obviously isn't too busy to go online (I promise I said nothing offensive in my email!)

Also, I was looking for a local alternative health practitioner and a woman online recommended one to me, she also lived locally. She sent me an email saying to let her know if I wanted to meet for coffee. I replied that I was in her area the following week then never heard from her again.

Both these incidents were before xmas so they're clearly not going to reply now. Is it normal to do this? To suggest meeting for coffee then never speak to someone again. Did they not mean it literally?

try them both again with specific dates and times - if you get no reply you are in their junk mail folder!

yeah, but I'm worried if I do that they'll think I'm some kind of a stalker. I've had replies from them before as well so if I'm in their junk folder now I've obviously been put there...

I'd chill about it. Peopel are busy, they come on and off the boards and may not have put the thread on watch - am sure it will have slipped their minds.

That's a good point, except they weren't threads - they were personal emails to their personal addresses - responses to emails from them asking if I wanted to meet them?

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i will say do not take it prsonally i too have had many people like this friendly enough until it actually comes to meeting up

it could be nerves but what evr the reason just keep talking to others and get to know first before aarranging to meet

it can feel bit lonely as i was also in same situation but once baby comes along you can get to mothers and babies groups and meet real friends

That's good advice, thanks bubblagirl