To think it’s silly posting things on Facebook that are directed at people not on Facebook?

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like birthday wishes as an example.

I see it all the time. E.g. a Facebook status saying “happy birthday mum, hope you have a lovely day” even if that person is not even on Facebook to see it. Is it not a bit pointless?

I don't like people posting remembrance posts about their dead mum/dad/dog. The deceased don't read Facebook, so what is the post really about? Attention-seeking for sympathy?

Most annoyingly, my sister exhibits such a post every year on the anniversary of our mum's death, 25 years ago, and over the years she has several times implied that, as I don't do the same, I didn't love mum as much or I don't miss her as much. Of course I do, but I prefer to think about mum privately in my own head or look at photos of her and remember her that way. Posting about her on Facebook is ridiculous.

My dad died when I was 9. I only have 2 pictures of him. (That's not relevant) but I can no longer picture him properly in my minds eye and he had a stroke which left him paralysed and unable to speak when I was 6 so I cant remember his voice and only remember snippets. I don't have any close family members left who knew him. I mention him every year on his birthday. He was a great dad and even if it's only me who remembers him I want others to know I once had a great dad who would dance with me to Strangers in the Night, did puppet shows through our serving hatch with his false teeth and a sock, and put salt and pepper on his porridge (he was a proud Glasweigan). If that annoys any of my friends on SM they are showing kindness by not sneering at me.

All the comments ring true. A friend committed suicide and obv her birthday pops up as a reminder and the first year or two loads posted about thinking of her. Now much less so. I found it comforting that so many people were very shocked as was I.
So it can have its place but I've seen some absolute clangers too.

As others have said, the 'to the man in the blue car who swore at me in Sainsbury's carpark' ones are the most utterly pointless.

What is it with accussing people of "attention seeking" every time someone does something (general) you don't understand on this website?

I saw a long rant this week telling someone they had blocked them - ummm if you've blocked them they can't see it ffs

His wife needs to either memorialise or delete his account. Maybe you could help her by looking up the instructions and showing her.

Bonfire night. One lady on our community group asked people to post their address and time if they were letting off fireworks. Then an angry post later ON 5TH NOVEMBER asking why some addresses didn't use the post. Maybe they missed it, maybe they don't have Facebook, maybe they don't want to post their full address on Facebook..

Happens on here too.

To the woman in the park who rolled her eyes at me when...

It's not about the person they are talking about seeing it. It's about either having a moan (although why not just put I'm so pissed off about... I have no idea), or attention/ sympathy seeking.

Everyone needs a bit of sympathy and attention at times. It's only when it's bloody constant or overly dramatic that it's an issue

"Blue lighted" irritated me. I was blue lighted to hospital. Breathless excitement. Oh so dramatic. It's never I had to go to hospital. Or even I needed an ambulance. It's always Blue Lighted. It has a very soap opera feel to it.

I know I'm being a grumpy old cow about it but it annoys me. Unreasonably so.

For those being snipey about Facebook why are you on it and what do you use it for? Surely any post on there is attention seeking really

I love these ones because often the person they're talking about responds on our local pages and we get both sides

I find it more amusing than irritating but quite a good friend of mine always posts happy birthday and happy anniversary to his wife who isn't on Facebook. Another friend once responded "I didn't think she was on here" but it didn't stop him.

I also find it a bit weird people wishing their (young) kids happy birthday on FB. I'll post up saying "child is x age today" with a photo but I tell them happy birthday in person so why do I need to say it on FB.

Annoys me when people that live together do it, say it to their face.

The community groups are my favourite.yesterday we had someone post anonymously to complain about the service they received from Just Eat and the restaurant they ordered from, but wasn’t naming the restaurant as that’s not their style. But nevertheless they expected them to get their act together following their post. I’m still trying to work out how they though that would be constructive.
The “to the person” posts during the first 12 months of covid were the best.

Yes u always find this odd. It's just about broadcasting something to everyone else.

I'm not on it anymore because I am too easily irritated, but the ones that used to piss me off 'share if you think paedophiles are bad'. Fuck off. No I won't share. Not because I think paedophiles are good, but because I'm not a thick twat.

The remembrance posts aren't for me, but they're fine.

It's the "Happy heavenly birthday..." posts that really give me the cringe. Not much happy about being dead...

My local Facebook community group is full of "to the driver of the red car that cut me up in Tesco's carpark today" type posts... Completely pointless!
These posts are a good laugh. The comments sections are usually funny as well.

I hear you. I lost my brother a long time ago now but I will mark his anniversary every year on Facebook. Many of my Facebook friends knew and loved him too. I'd like to think that anyone who rolled their eyes at my annual post would have the decency to remove themselves from my friend list because I'm fucked if I want to know anyone so shitty.

Could be fun if there was. You'd get threads on here "I've been blocked by my dead relative".

and Then they are flooded with messages of “sending hugs” and “thinking of you hun”. It’s pure attention seeking.

I have about 25 close friends / family on my Facebook and that’s it. I find it really odd when people post political or ranting statements - why have people on your Facebook that you have so little in common with that you need to “educate” them in whatever the latest thing that’s bothering you is? Can’t stand it. I use Facebook like a private space to sort of message everyone in one go - so I might share a special photo or bit of news with everyone, that’s it. Wouldn’t dream of feeling the need to post anything about racism / homophobia etc as everyone I have on there shares my views anyway and if they didn’t they’d be blocked!

For those being snipey about Facebook why are you on it and what do you use it for? Surely any post on there is attention seeking really
im on it to follow venues and bands and also the groups that I’m in for info about when we are meeting up , eg the open water swimming group, long distance walking and cycling groups. I’m also on some cookery groups.
I can’t remember last time I posted something on fb.
I like seeing my friends holiday pictures and what they’ve been up to though.

All of these are terribly annoying...BUT...not as annoying (in my humble opinion) as:

"Time for a Facebook purge! If you can read this then you are one of the lucky ones!"

Roughly translates as 'Look at me! I've got SO many friends that I need to get rid of some to moderate my stupidly busy social life. Aren't you lucky that I still want to be 'friends' with you?!'...OK:

1. A friend request works two ways so you either sent the request in the first place or, at the very least, accepted it
2. Most people blindly accept requests from anyone they've ever heard of (because they're nosy and want to see how your life has panned out). Having loads of 'friends' doesn't mean you're super-special or popular, just that you spend too much time on social media.
3. These are VIRTUAL friends, not real ones. These are the type of people who wouldn't cross the street to talk to you but tell you they love you every time your birthday rolls around.

Phew!

Now don't get me started on the virtuous hi-jacking of other people's grief, the endless sharing of 'motivational' memes, the 'checking in' to hospital with no context and the transition from 'woe is me' to 'look at my happy-smiling-family' posts in 14.7 seconds!

Why does Mumsnet always automatically change numbered bullet points to miss out '1'...Makes me look a right plonker!