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My self pity thread.

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GEC44 · 13/11/2022 19:59

Every night I lay down my sword to pick it up again in the morning to continue the battle, alone. I am exhausted but cannot and will not give up. Kicked hard so many times. Stolen from both money and from my home, stabbed in the back, used, been kind and generous and what I thought was a good friend. A friend tried to wreck my marriage but failed. A friend who sent the most unimaginably cruel, unkind messages shortly after I had moved house. The same friend who texted she cannot be bothered to wait for me to invite her to visit and that she needed to make new friends. The same friend who said I should have my poorly puppy pts as it didn't seem fair to keep her alive. Well guess what, pts was never an option, never even suggested by our vet,, she made it through just fine.. The same friend who insisted on visiting sex shops the day I met her for what I thought was going to be a gentle coffee and cake having just been bereaved and struggling with grief. This same friend is constantly posting about "Be Kind".

The friend who took advantage of my hospitality and stole personal items from my bedroom, which I had been kind enough to let her sleep in whenever she visited. The items never were returned.

The time has come where I simply cannot do this anymore. I no longer need these types in my life. Better off going it alone. And so the fight will continue.

OP posts:
RobertaFirmino · 13/11/2022 20:01

Well just sack her off then, problem solved.

GEC44 · 13/11/2022 20:02

RobertaFirmino · 13/11/2022 20:01

Well just sack her off then, problem solved.

Who? My thread refers to more than one person.

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Aquamarine1029 · 13/11/2022 20:05

GEC44 · 13/11/2022 20:02

Who? My thread refers to more than one person.

All of them. One of the most important things you can ever learn is to cut out toxic people from your life.

OnTheWagon · 13/11/2022 20:07

These people are not friends. Remove them from your life, lay down your sword and move on without them in your life .... why keep fighting a lost cause?

TheMatlockMangle · 13/11/2022 20:16

This is a turning point for you. I went through this years ago - I cut out the toxic or negative people in my life and have been much happier since.

GrabMyParaplu · 13/11/2022 20:18

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Aquamarine1029 · 13/11/2022 20:21

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There's nothing wrong with being a bit self-indulgent and having a moan when you feel that things are getting on top of you. Everyone needs to vent sometimes, and perhaps this thread will help the op make some much needed changes.

Thewildling · 13/11/2022 20:22

Goodness me! Sounds like you’ve been through it. I’m so sorry to hear. Remove these toxic people from your life. Unfortunately some of us attract them! All the best

Thewildling · 13/11/2022 20:23

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The title of the thread gave you a clue if you have a problem with self pity then don’t read! Have a heart won’t you

Luredbyapomegranate · 13/11/2022 20:38

Well we all need a moan now and then, so long as this isn’t your regular songbook..

On a practical basis I’d make a list of Twat, Twat?? And not-Twat, dump the first, put up boundaries around the second. Spend more time within the third.

If this is your regular songbook then book it to see a counsellor so you can take some action

Minimalme · 13/11/2022 21:14

Why won't you give up? It's worth trying to think about why you are attracted to these type of friends.

Sometimes people pick those who play a familiar role in our life because it is what we are familiar with.

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