To be fed up with people drama-queening

[MintyFinty]

I would like to know if AIBU and also how to deal with people being massive drama queens in their conversations with me.
Example 1. Colleague A during a massive event we were running comes rushing up to me "it's a disaster, the balcony has collapsed"
What actually happened: some of the seats on the balcony had folded down and needed to be fixed upright.
Example 2. Husband - "We had a big discussion during our break today about the future of the company and John had some big news" Husband then walks off, leaving me hanging. (Background : company is restructuring, we are up to our elbows in investment in this company and John is a significant player).
These are two examples literally from today but colleague A is HORRENDOUS for declaring disaster zones in a dramatic way. Both colleagues and husband love my "calming pragmatic influence" but are also both well aware of the health problems I suffer as a direct result if my anxiety (which I am beginning to wonder is actually caused by them all along).

So as not to drip feed, I have fairly significant anxiety and a job that although should be straightforward is often not (because of people in the team not being competent).

These are not the only examples, I could go in for pages, I also have colleague B who is.. to be perfectly honest incredibly disorganised, unable to communicate properly and often incompetent and then passes the problems hebhas caused on to me to deal with whilst Colleague A literally rushes round looking busy but without actually doing any work (it's amazing how a fast walk and a worried looking face passes for action).
How do I deal with these people?!

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This links into a thread I started the other day (since closed/removed) about people who misuse words like “devastated”. Some people lack any perspective unfortunately, and ultimately run the risk of a ‘cry wolf’ situation.

You can’t do anything about it, other than working on your resilience and managing your own anxiety. They’re probably unaware of what they’re doing or, even if they’re not, you can’t control other people’s behaviour, only how you react to it. If these people are crying wolf then you know what happens at the end of that story people stop believing the boy’s cries. If your response is to jump in and react/problem solve every single time they’ll keep doing it as both sides are getting what they want. And don’t be a martyr to your job, it’s not worth it. I assume you’re not managing these colleagues, so it’s not your problem is it, your line manager needs to deal with it. Stop. Step back.

YY totally agree - by the time they've had a hissy fit, they could have actually sorted the problem but no it has to be everyone else's issue.

They also people who just expect you to accept that they are shit and everyone else has to deal with it. 'Oops you know what I'm like, had another blond moment.' And often the same people who use the last of something and never replenish or re-order but go and borrow or take someone else's stuff.

Half of my workplace is like this.