Am I being crazy??

[lottie198]

I think there's something wrong with my brain. I'm yearning for a second child already and my baby is only 10 and a half months. I love him to pieces and our days are amazing. I love being a mother. Don't get me wrong, some days (a lot of days actually) are so so hard and the nights are terrible at times because he does not sleep well (normal I know!). But I am sooooo broody. I can't shake the feeling and it's starting to frustrate me. I return to work soon part time but would love to start trying in 6 months or so. Our first baby is IVF so natural conception would be a miracle anyway but would like to try soon in case we do need IVF again. I have spoke to my partner about it and he just does not want to address the subject so haven't probed,m. AIBU?? Am I crazy? I had to let my feelings out somewhere! So thanks if you've read this.

well you need to speak to your dh to find out whether another is on the cards

Well yeah I have but I just get maybe in the future 🤣 x

2 under two is a huge task, I'm a mum of twins. I would give yourself some time to settle in to motherhood and see how you feel in a years time. If you still feel the same then of course your DH has to be on board too, IMO it's too soon, your hormones after having a baby take a long time to settle. My oldest was 5 when my twins were born and I was extremely busy, tired and emotional.

Enjoy your little boy, dw about having another so soon

Loads of people have kids close together (and much closer together than yours would be) so, no, you're not being crazy. There are lots of positives (and negatives) of having children close together, for you and for them in terms of their sibling relationship.

You do have a bit of a problem if your DH isn't in board though.

I felt broody really fast. We worked out the smallest age gap we could afford and timed DS so DD would get some free hours at nursery as I was returning to work after maternity leave. There's nearly exactly 2 years between them.

Thanks for this insight. You are right, I don't want to make my life harder for myself right now either and want to put all my energy into my lovely boy. There's no chance of pregnancy soon anyway as still breast feeding and currently no periods have returned. Plus obviously wouldn't take the risk x

I think that's a lovely age gap. So your eldest was 15 months when you got pregnant ? Because we have sub fertility it's hard to plan as such, I think that's why I'm more eager as I know it could take years. I'd rather have a relaxed attitude over years than be desperate to conceive and it not happen x