to have not gone for lunch today

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had our third baby less than 3 weeks ago, in-laws have been here since Thursday, in hotel not staying with us, but have been here every afternoon whilst husband is at work and stayed all evening until 10pm. Went out for lunch with them yesterday, all arranged by me for my MIL's bday, all v nice. Baby majorly cluster feeding today, I am bleeding again and generally feel a bit shattered/ grim. They have gone out for a walk and lunch again and I have stayed at home feeding/ getting covered in baby sick. Husband says I'm rude not to have gone, I feel like crying, I've tried so hard to be welcoming etc but just not up to it today. AIBU?

Your husband is being a dick.

Yup. Your husband is indeed being a dick.

YANBU, at all.

Your husband is being very unkind.

Please don't cry.
If he dares say anything further to you, tell him what you have told us here and give him a hard Paddington stare.

You've done brilliantly to accommodate them this much. Hunker down with the baby. Ignore your DH; ungrateful fool.

Your husband is being a twat. He clearly just does not want to have to deal with his parents alone. 3 weeks post partum! Your amazing to have done even half of what you have!

Bet your MiL would think he's being a dick as well.
You've done well, make time for yourself to get better.

OP, Darling, of course you are not BU. You are still in a very fragile state, you made a good effort yesterday and your top priority for now has to be your recovery and the new baby. Keep comfortable and try and rest and relax.

Tell your husband to f**k right off.

Agree with PP’s, husband is being a dick. Show him the responses.

I don’t often say this but seriously tell him to fuck off.

I'd just be hiding in my bedroom if I were you when they're there. What's rude is turning up at a family's home for hours every day when they've got a newborn. Stand your ground and let your DH do all the entertaining and they'll be gone before you know it xx

Your husband is a dick.

i agree with others, what’s rude is them coming over and staying all afternoon.

Do they at the very least help? Do some housework or cooking for you? Watch the baby for a bit so you can sleep?

Send him over here.

Your husbands a knob so are the 2% voting your being unreasonable

Your husband’s a fucking arsehole and his parents need telling that a max of 2 hours is bearable for a visit. Why did you arrange his mother’s birthday meal out? Totally unacceptable. Make him sort out everything, including telling his parents no more than a couple of hours. I’d be very honestly telling them you’re bleeding.